Coping with the suicide of a friend is one of the most excruciating, incomprehensible things a person can experience. It leaves behind a wound that will seemingly never heal. Read on for some information on how to cope with the suicide of a friend.
Coping with Suicide and Grief
Reach Out to a Friend or Family Member
When trying to cope with a friend’s suicide, nothing is worse than being alone with your thoughts and memories. When grief takes you over, reach out to someone you love. Distracting yourself can ease your pain, if only for a little while.
Emulate the Person’s Goodness
The best way to remember and honor your loved one is to keep his or her goodness alive. Show the people in your own life the same kindness, love, and compassion that person showed you.
Acknowledge Your Grief
We will all have to grieve for someone we love at some point in our lives. Don’t shy away from that pain. Grief doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. In the words of John Green, “It hurts because it matters.”
Try Not to Obsess Over the Reason Why
“Why did they do it?” is always the burning question when it comes to suicide. Often, it’s one that goes unanswered. In many cases, there is no answer. Suicide, especially in those with mental illness, can strike without warning or reason, just like a terminal illness. Letting the reason why consume you will only bring about more anguish.
In this week’s video, I talk about how I’ve coped with the recent suicide of a friend, and what the grieving process taught me.
In loving memory of Dale Folwer. Thank you for lighting up my life.