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Why Verbal Abuse Is So Dangerous

Why Verbal Abuse Is So Dangerous

Verbal abuse is dangerous, and victims of verbal abuse are in danger. Let's examine the dangerous side-effects and stigmas of verbal abuse in relationships.

Most people think physical violence is more dangerous than verbal abuse in a relationship, but this is a misconception. It’s why we often hear well-meaning advice such as, “If an abuser’s behavior turns violent, it’s time to leave.” But should it have to get to this point before the abused person walks away? Emotional abuse and physical violence are not mutually exclusive — in fact, one is usually a precursor to the other. So, let’s explore the psychological side effects of verbal abuse, some of which have dangerous implications.

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Early Warning Signs of Verbal Abuse

Early Warning Signs of Verbal Abuse

Think you spot the warning signs of verbal abuse in your relationship? Here are the early warning signs of verbal abuse that most people miss.

Think you’ve spotted the early warning signs of verbal abuse in your relationship? If so, you’re not alone. I was in a volatile, abusive partnership for two years before I identified the signs, and by then the damage was already done. Like me, you probably know that any form of emotional abuse is insidious and highly destructive. You understand that this kind of psychological trauma can lead to depression, self-harm and even physical violence in a relationship. Unlike me, however, perhaps you can spot the warning signs of verbal abuse early on and put an end to the vicious cycle.

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Introduction to Emily Sullivan, Author of ‘Verbal Abuse in Relationships’

Introduction to Emily Sullivan, Author of ‘Verbal Abuse in Relationships’

My name is Emily J. Sullivan and I’m thrilled to join the HealthyPlace blogging team as the newest author of the Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog. My earliest friendships and my first dating experiences were rampant with dysfunction. Con men, mean girls, gaslighters, and narcissists have always found their way into my heart. I’m not sure if it’s because I could always see the good in people or if I was an easy target. Whatever the reason, I spent years of my life in relationships and friendships with people who have been able to emotionally overpower me with verbal abuse. Verbal abuse can mentally cripple a person, diminish their self-worth, and alienate them from the loving relationships in their lives.

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What Are the Signs Your Verbal Abuser Is a Narcissist?

What Are the Signs Your Verbal Abuser Is a Narcissist?

Are all verbal abusers narcissists? Knowing if your verbal abuser is a narcissist may aid your recovery from abuse. Here's how it helps and what to look for.

If your verbal abuser is a narcissist, what are the signs? As we know, it’s important to spot the signs of verbal abuse early on in a relationship. However, recognizing the issue is only part of the process; gaining insight into your verbally abusive relationship can be the start of the emotional healing process, but how do you begin to understand it? There are many complex reasons why verbal abuse happens, but personality disorders are among the most common. Realizing you’re in a verbally abusive relationship with a narcissist can be a real light-bulb moment, so what are the signs?

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Can You Save Your Abuser’s New Girlfriend From Abuse?

Can You Save Your Abuser’s New Girlfriend From Abuse?

Is it your job to warn your abuser's new girlfriend of his abuse? If so, is there a way of protecting her without compromising your own safety? Read this.

One of the questions many abuse victims will ask themselves is, “Is it my job to warn my abuser’s new girlfriend of his behavior?” And I must admit, this has stumped me every time it’s been brought up in the comments section of a Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog post. When my abusive boyfriend broke up with me, I swiftly deleted him from all of my social media accounts. We also lived in different cities, so when he did meet someone else I didn’t know about it until months afterward. But when the inevitable photos of him with other women found their way into my news feed, I couldn’t help wondering if it was my job to warn my abuser’s new girlfriend of what he was capable of.

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When Verbal Abuse Is Disguised as a Joke

When Verbal Abuse Is Disguised as a Joke

Abusers disguise verbal abuse as jokes, but even if the joke makes the abuser (and others) laugh, it's not funny. You're not too sensitive. It's verbal abuse.

How can you recognize verbal abuse disguised as a joke? Here’s the thing: a loving partner will never call you ugly or stupid, even as a joke. A respectful husband or wife won’t ever deliberately put you down in front of other people for a laugh. That’s because it’s not funny, it’s verbal abuse thinly disguised as a joke.

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Introduction to Emma-Marie Smith, Author of ‘Verbal Abuse in Relationships’

Introduction to Emma-Marie Smith, Author of ‘Verbal Abuse in Relationships’

Emma-Marie Smith has experienced verbal abuse in a previous relationship. Learn about Emma-Marie Smith's experience with verbal abuse and healing.I’m Emma-Marie Smith, and I’m proud to be joining the Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog here at HealthyPlace. A few years ago, I met a man who was charming, intelligent, and good looking. My family liked him, my friends liked him, and he did all the things a good boyfriend does. He bought me flowers, left love notes under my pillow, and was always proud to introduce me to his friends and colleagues — but that wasn’t the whole story. The verbal abuse began weeks into our relationship and lasted for almost two years.

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Abuse Victims: You Are Beautiful, Strong and Courageous

Abuse Victims: You Are Beautiful, Strong and Courageous

Abuse defines victims as ignorant, selfish and less important than everyone else. Abuse lies. Abuse victims, you need to hear this today - a message for you.

In the following video, I say to you what I needed to remember today. I am less than no one. I have value. I am chock full of potential and promise. So are you.

To help me remember I am worthy, I have to remember the vocabulary of abuse. The vocabulary of abuse is the words and techniques abusers use to keep abuse victims as victims. When I was an abuse victim, I found myself confused: I knew something was wrong, but I couldn’t decipher or describe what that something could be (Gaslighting: Designed to Destroy Your Sanity). Before I knew there was a vocabulary of abuse, I was destined to remain an abuse victim .

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Life After Abuse Video

Life After Abuse Video

Life after abuse surpasses the definition of peaceful. There is no one but me to tell me what to do or how to do it.

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About Kellie Holly, Author of Verbal Abuse in Relationships Blog

About Kellie Holly, Author of Verbal Abuse in Relationships Blog

Kellie Holly was in an 18 year verbally abusive marriage. Her verbal abuse blog, Verbal Abuse in Relationships, details her experiences and what she learned.

I am Kellie Jo Holly, and I participated in the cycle of verbal abuse with my soon to be ex-husband for almost 18 years. I retain the relationship with him because we have two sons together who are now teens. Leaving the marriage did not end the abuse. Stopping verbal abuse has more to do with my reaction to it than convincing him to stop!

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