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The Problem With Verbal Abusers and Affection

The Problem With Verbal Abusers and Affection

We're all entitled to our personal space, but using affection as leverage can be damaging to a relationship. Here's why verbal abusers do it and why.

Verbal abusers often can’t give affection. Don’t get me wrong, they can provide acts of love when it suits them, but they aren’t able to give and receive mutually. Often, verbal abuse and problems with physical contact go hand in hand: abusers may withhold affection or contact from partners as punishment, or criticize them for being too affectionate or needy. But it all boils down to the same underlying problem. If there’s one thing my past relationship taught me, it’s that verbal abusive personality types can’t give affection in a healthy, mutually beneficial way, and this is why.

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Are You Verbally Abused When You’re Sick?

Are You Verbally Abused When You’re Sick?

Being verbally abused when we're sick makes everything worse. Why does verbal abuse happen even when we're ill? How can you deal with being verbally abused?

Have you been verbally abused when you were sick? It’s horrible. We have enough to deal with when we’re sick without being verbally abused when we’re at our most vulnerable. Feeling unwell and physically weak makes us sitting targets for gaslighting, emotional abuse and manipulation because we’re less likely to put up a fight. But is this part of the attraction to perpetrators or are we just more susceptible to abuse when our defenses are down? Let’s examine what we know about verbally abusive personality types and why they target us when we’re sick.

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Toxic Relationships: Friend and Family Estrangement

Toxic Relationships: Friend and Family Estrangement

Toxic Relationships, Friend and Family Estrangement

Toxic relationships don’t typically begin as such; they develop with time, often leading to loss of friends and family estrangement (See how abusers isolate victims). Of course, they don’t begin this way because if you met a potential partner that made you swoon but then informed you that you’d likely lose all of your best friends and family members because of him or her, well, that’s an easy deal-breaker. So why do we ever allow toxic relationships to lead to friend and family estrangement?

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The Codependent Love Addict and Verbal Abuse

The Codependent Love Addict and Verbal Abuse

Codependent love addicts hold behavior patterns that make them compatible with verbal abusers. Learn more about those patterns and the hope for treatment here.

Verbal abuse and the codependent love addict often go hand in hand. There are several different types of love addicts such as the obsessive love addict, the sex addict, the relationship addict, the codependent love addict and the narcissistic love addict. Some of the different types even complement one another like magnets with opposite charges, an obvious attraction with a force difficult to interrupt. The codependent love addict pairs both painfully and perfectly with the narcissistic love addict. Verbal abuse is a routine offense for a narcissist in a relationship and accepting abuse is typical for a codependent love addict. Discovering the signs and symptoms of a codependent love addiction may be illuminating as well as an important step toward recovery.

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Dreams About Abuse and How I’m Using them to Recover

Dreams About Abuse and How I’m Using them to Recover

Dreams about abuse play an active role in recovery from relationship abuse. As bad as dreams about abuse are, is there something positive to be said for them?

I still have dreams about abuse despite the abusive relationship ending years ago and the progress I’ve made in my recovery from verbal and psychological abuse. Sometimes I am trapped in a house with him, unable to escape. Other times the roles are reversed: I become the abuser, and he is the one begging for my love and respect. But then there are the nightmares — the dreams so violent and terrifying that they take weeks to shake off. I’m sure these forays into my subconscious are simply my brain trying to process what happened, but the dreams about abuse always take me right back to the way I felt at the time of the relationship abuse, and sometimes they’re just downright confusing.

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Movies Romanticize Abuse Against Women: What’s the Danger?

Movies Romanticize Abuse Against Women: What’s the Danger?

Movies that romanticize abuse against women are alive and doing well in Hollywood. Learn about the dangerous consequences of romanticizing abuse in the movies.

Violence and verbal abuse against women are romanticized in many Hollywood movies, but perhaps none so blatantly as in Fifty Shades of Grey. Unsurprisingly, given the story originated from Twilight fan fiction, the popular erotic novel and subsequent movie smacks of emotional abuse. What are the real-life effects of movies that romanticize abuse against women?

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Signs Your Best Friend Is Verbally Abusive

Signs Your Best Friend Is Verbally Abusive

Do you suspect that your best friend is verbally abusive? What are the signs that you're in a verbally abusive friendship? Find out all you need to know here.

Are you concerned that your best friend is verbally abusive? Many of us have had friendships with a certain person that leaves us feeling drained, continually frustrated, or wondering why our friend did that hurtful thing again – if these are thoughts that you’ve been having, it may be time to consider the signs that your best friend is verbally abusive. Verbal abuse is often thought to be most common in romantic or familial relationships, but those are not the only relationships rampant with verbal abuse; platonic friendships are just as open to the potential for verbal abuse — here are the signs that your best friend is verbally abusive.

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Is Social Media Normalizing Verbal Abuse?

Is Social Media Normalizing Verbal Abuse?

Is Social Media Normalizing Verbal Abuse?

Normalizing verbal abuse is a danger that society should be wary of, but in the political climate that envelopes much of social media interaction today, it’s increasingly difficult for people to find productive ways to interact with each other. More and more, people use verbal abuse when discussing differing ideologies on social media. Should verbal abuse on social media feel so routine? Can we stop normalizing verbal abuse?

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Why Verbal Abuse Is So Dangerous

Why Verbal Abuse Is So Dangerous

Verbal abuse is dangerous, and victims of verbal abuse are in danger. Let's examine the dangerous side-effects and stigmas of verbal abuse in relationships.

Most people think physical violence is more dangerous than verbal abuse in a relationship, but this is a misconception. It’s why we often hear well-meaning advice such as, “If an abuser’s behavior turns violent, it’s time to leave.” But should it have to get to this point before the abused person walks away? Emotional abuse and physical violence are not mutually exclusive — in fact, one is usually a precursor to the other. So, let’s explore the psychological side effects of verbal abuse, some of which have dangerous implications.

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Ad Hominem Fallacy and Verbal Abuse: Definition and Examples

Ad Hominem Fallacy and Verbal Abuse: Definition and Examples

The ad hominem fallacy is an argument against a person rather than their idea. Learn more about ad hominem and verbal abuse with these examples

Understanding the definition and examples of the ad hominem fallacy will change the way you process arguments forever. This is really important in the context of trying to figure out if you are a victim of verbal abuse, which is sometimes the case when the ad hominem fallacy is used.

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