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Coping with Verbal Abuse This Christmas

Coping with Verbal Abuse This Christmas

You can't take a holiday from coping with verbal abuse. Not even Christmas makes the abuse stop. Read this for tips on coping with verbal abuse this Christmas.

Christmas is celebrated as a time of peace and joy, but for anyone coping with verbal abuse, the holiday season can be quite the opposite. Perhaps you’re forced to spend time with a manipulative or criticizing family member you wouldn’t normally see, or maybe the emotional vampire lives under your roof. Either way, verbal and psychological attacks can become more frequent and intense over the holidays, causing anyone in the firing line to become drained and withdrawn. Here’s why abusers act worse at the holidays, and how to cope with verbal abuse when it begins.

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Early Warning Signs of Verbal Abuse

Early Warning Signs of Verbal Abuse

Think you spot the warning signs of verbal abuse in your relationship? Here are the early warning signs of verbal abuse that most people miss.

Think you’ve spotted the early warning signs of verbal abuse in your relationship? If so, you’re not alone. I was in a volatile, abusive partnership for two years before I identified the signs, and by then the damage was already done. Like me, you probably know that any form of emotional abuse is insidious and highly destructive. You understand that this kind of psychological trauma can lead to depression, self-harm and even physical violence in a relationship. Unlike me, however, perhaps you can spot the warning signs of verbal abuse early on and put an end to the vicious cycle.

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Withholding Contact: When Silence Is Worse Than Verbal Abuse

Withholding Contact: When Silence Is Worse Than Verbal Abuse

Withholding contact can affect us more than verbal abuse and make us feel like we don't matter. So why do abusers withhold contact and how can we stop it?

Withholding contact is something your partner could do that could make you feel worse than hearing his verbal abuse. Picture yourself in a relationship in which there are no violent outbursts, no explosive fits of rage, no words thrown at you like hand grenades, in which your only punishments are silence and deprivation. It may sound like a favorable option to anyone on the frontline of a verbally abusive relationship, but so-called “withholding” is a particularly insidious method of abuse that deprives us of our basic comforts and makes us feel less than human. Here’s why verbal abusers withhold verbal and physical contact, and how to respond.

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Ending Verbal Abuse: Five Steps to Take

Ending Verbal Abuse: Five Steps to Take

Ending verbal abuse isn't easy. Verbal abuse leads to long-term emotional damage, but how do we end the cycle? Here are five ideas on ending verbal abuse.

So, you’ve spotted the signs of verbal abuse in your relationship and you want to end the verbal abuse. You know that blaming, shaming, threatening and name-calling does not equate to a happy or healthy partnership. You realize that maybe — just maybe — you deserve better. So how do you make it stop? Is ending verbal abuse possible?

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What To Say To A Victim Of Domestic Violence

What To Say To A Victim Of Domestic Violence

Knowing what to say to a victim of domestic violence can make all the difference in the world. You have to change the victim of violence's reality. Read how.

So what do we say to a victim of domestic violence? More specifically, what should we say to a friend who is abused if they come to us for help? The confusion over what to say is warranted. Even my mother didn’t know what to say to me when I cried to her about the abuse, and my mother is brilliant. However, since I’ve been an abuser’s target, I have a good idea of what to say to a victim of domestic violence, and I’ll tell you all about it.

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How to Live With Abuse: Connect With Your Intuition

How to Live With Abuse: Connect With Your Intuition

How can you live with abuse in a healthier way? Learn to trust your intuition and it will keep you safer & saner until you decide to leave the abuse.

How do you live with abuse and learn to trust your intuition after distrusting yourself for so long? Why do you want to revive your intuition anyway? Here’s the deal: your abuser wants you isolated from everyone and anything (such as your intuition) that could convince you to leave the relationship.

You’ve learned how to live with abuse your partner’s way. It’s time to live with abuse a new way.

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End Your Abusive Relationship By Trusting Your Intuition

End Your Abusive Relationship By Trusting Your Intuition

End your abusive relationship by trusting your intuition? Didn't your intuition tell you he/she was the one? Why should you trust yourself? Here's why.

Wondering how to end your abusive relationship? There’s one way that requires no tools, no tears and no trust given to anyone but yourself. You see, trusting your intuition is like trusting that one friend who never lets you down (imagine that friend if you haven’t had one since being isolated). Your intuition guides you through life safely when you develop and use it correctly.

And therein lies a problem: an abusive relationship disconnects you from your intuition. Abusers know that trusting your intuition will lead you away from their control pull, and eventually, your intuition can end your abusive relationship.

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Top 10 Most Engaging Verbal Abuse Posts From 2013

Top 10 Most Engaging Verbal Abuse Posts From 2013

These engaging verbal abuse posts encourage you to open up about your abusive experience so others don't suffer as long as you did. Participate in the comments.

Last year, I did a top ten list of the most viewed Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog posts, so I thought I’d do something different this time. The posts on this list earned the largest percentage of comments per times viewed. If you missed them, perhaps you want to add your two cents. Readers tell me all the time they get as much from the comments as they get from the post, so share your experience so we can ALL benefit!

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How To Find Some Peace In An Abusive Relationship

How To Find Some Peace In An Abusive Relationship

I tried to write this post earlier today, but evidently there were some comments and stories I needed to read first. Stories from addicts, ministers and other abuse survivors reminded me of how much I used to fight my abuser. I fought with my ex-husband so often that I accepted some isolation to spare myself the embarrassment of fighting in front of his friends. At the end, I think every one of the people my ex hung out with knew that I couldn’t stand to look at him.

No wonder they believed his stories that I was miserable and unstable. I couldn’t open my mouth without something negative about my ex sliding out. My feelings for him surrounded me like a prickly heat and they made me seem like someone I was not. Ugly. Hateful. Mean. My feelings for my ex made it easy for his friends to feel sorry for him, give him a place to stay, and believe his side of whatever story he told.

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Can A Verbal Abuser Change?

Can A Verbal Abuser Change?

Can a verbal abuser change? You will only know if he or she shuts up long enough to prove change is happening through their actions - not his or her words.

Can a verbal abuser change? I’ve heard that question so many times and it is always delivered with a longing tone. Verbal abuse victims very much want their abuser to want to change. Some verbal abusers honestly do want to change. I don’t know how rare those types of abusers are, and there’s no way to know if your partner wants to change by listening to what they say because it is so easy to lie.

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