Dating is awkward and many feel anxiety about dating. Throw some clinical anxiety into the mix and you’ve got a disaster on your hands. But you can minimize anxiety about dating.
Empaths are often anxious. Empathy is described as the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. All humans have the ability to empathize in moments of tragedy, even if they have not experienced a similar situation. However, empathy is an innate trait that is more acutely developed in certain members of the population (Intense Anxiety And The Highly Sensitive Person). Empaths are individuals who are unconsciously affected by other people’s moods, desires, thoughts, and energies. They can, literally, feel the emotions of others in their bodies and attempt to carry these emotions on their shoulders without ever being asked. It’s for this reason that there are often anxious empaths.
Anxiety disorder is a complex beast that affects more than just your emotions. It’s seen primarily as an mood disorder, and while that is certainly true, anxiety has a strong mental and physiological component as well. This week, we’ll explore one of the questions everyone with anxiety has asked themselves at some point: why does anxiety disorder make you so tired?
I’ve been having a horrible time with anxiety. It still affects almost every area of my life. And although I’ve certainly gotten lots better at coping, my anxiety seems to be developing a new wrinkle: walking around feeling so alienated from the world that nothing feels real.
Anger can be the match that sparks a dip in your mood or a bout with anxiety, and according to what I’ve been reading recently this is because the part of your brain that normally keeps a lid on angry feelings is impaired when you’re depressed.
Fear denied, repressed, suppressed, or put out of mind is not fear extinguished.
I’ve been told that acting ‘as if’ I’m not nearly as anxious as I am is a helpful thing. It’s also dangerous. As with almost any technique sometimes is fine but if you’re anything like me and you’ll do whatever you have to do to be able to put your anxiety aside and function, and if what you want is to go on with as much of life as you can, uninterrupted by fear, then it can become destabilizing.
Feel free to question my emotional competence but I’m not insane. For that matter, most people with mental illness are not insane.
This may be obvious but for many it’s not. Anyway, how many times have you thought, ‘oh goodness, I must be really losing it this time’ during the course of mental health difficulties?
It’s a common concern that can dramatically increase the amount of anxiety a person experiences. It may also inhibit their ability to trust, and to ask for help.
Happy is what brings healthy, and viceversa, so it can’t be that much of a surprise anxiety and depression have had some pretty rough consequences on my health; High blood pressure at 25, on-and-off flings with anemia, near-constant sleep deprivation.
I may as well have an imp bouncing up and down on my kidneys whilst someone tells my nervous system to pump out all the stress hormones its got, so I can feel normal, or at least prepared. Like a Girl Scout on crack. That’s PTSD hypervigilance for you.
It’s also that sometimes our bodies express what we are otherwise unwilling, or unable to say.
Life with mental illness isn’t always fun. Not just because I have a real illness, and that real illness really does affect my life but because some folks have trouble accepting this. I’m not entirely sure why except they don’t like the thought that someone with mental illness can “zomg, look just like them,” and still be quite unwell.
That’s the thing about invisible illness: Once revealed, people around you may feel conned, manipulated, lied to. Even though you’ve done nothing wrong.
Yeah, I’m guilty of being unwell in the general vicinity, of having mental health issues and having a life anyway. Sorry about that. Next time I’ll wear my “mentally interesting” t-shirt so you can detect the crazy, before it gets in your Coke.
*passes the tin-foil hat*
I come up against this wall plenty, in treating anxiety: Combating the sense of hopelessness, of powerlessness, that only too often accompanies the worst symptoms of anxiety disorders.
“If you know neither yourself nor your enemy,
you will always endanger yourself.”
–The Art of War
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