Attention 32 million families of the Ashley Madison hack: a cheating partner is not your fault. Josh Duggar, the former head of an anti-gay hate group that preaches “family values” is a sex addict who is making it out to be his wife’s fault that he cheated on her. His words, not mine.
According to a New York Daily News article, “there will be some suggestion of whether or not she should have been more aware of the pressures Josh was under, of the issues he was facing, and how she could have better counseled him or helped him.” Divorce “is not even something that will be discussed.”
It’s unknown if these are her words or her husband’s words. Either way, these words reveal the lie that the victim is somehow to blame for abuse–and treating your partner as part of a harem and blaming him or her for it–is domestic abuse. Maybe you’re feeling this way because you’re one of the 32 million stories of adultery exposed by the Ashley Madison hack. The fault lies with the cheater, not you. Abuse is not your fault.