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Setting and Maintaining Boundaries in Addiction Recovery

Setting and Maintaining Boundaries in Addiction Recovery

People in addiction recovery often have difficulty setting and maintaining boundaries. Learn to identify healthy boundaries and how to keep them.

Setting or maintaining boundaries with family and friends may be difficult if you are in recovery from addiction. The difficulty of setting limitations with others is a natural thing to experience in recovery because when you were in active addiction it’s likely that your boundaries were severely blurred or even nonexistent. The lack of boundaries in your life at the time may have led to manipulation, abuse, allowing others to take advantage of you and put you in harm’s way. It also leads to codependency in relationships, which likely fed your addiction and kept it active. But now you are in recovery, and it’s time to learn that setting and maintaining boundaries is essential to your recovery.

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What Does Acceptance in Addiction Recovery Mean?

What Does Acceptance in Addiction Recovery Mean?

Acceptance in recovery from addiction helps free you from the attempt to control things and people you can't control. Acceptance is key to recovery. Learn why.Acceptance in addiction recovery means you learn to accept the things you can’t change and focus on the things you can. Trying to change other people, living in the past, wishing things were different, and stressing over failed plans are the things that keep us stuck and cause great turmoil in our minds. I wasted an embarrassing amount of energy on things I was powerless over during my active addiction. I was so consumed by things I could not control, that I lost focus on the ones I could. Not knowing or misunderstanding acceptance in addiction recovery set me up to continually strive against the universe.

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Overcoming Your Fear of Addiction Recovery

Overcoming Your Fear of Addiction Recovery

The fear of addiction recovery is a fear you can work through. Reveal the untruths that keep you stuck in fear and you will recover from addiction. Read this.

Do you fear addiction recovery? During my active addiction, I feared everything. Fear was the driving emotion in my life. I was afraid of an unknown future and was most afraid of becoming sober. I’d become comfortable in my mess and just the thought of anything different frightened me. The fear of addiction recovery hid itself in my untruths.

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Emotional Maturity May Frighten Us in Addiction Recovery

Emotional Maturity May Frighten Us in Addiction Recovery

"I have to feel my own feelings?" This was my biggest fear about sobriety.My lack of emotional maturity during my active addiction caused me to stuff down my feelings. Thinking, “I have to feel my feelings?” caused me great fear when I started sobriety. Whenever I started working through a 12-step program, dealing with emotions felt like opening a closet door with a big, scary monster inside of it. The scary monster was all the feelings I’d stuffed in there, during the decade I used. I was emotionally immature and didn’t have tools to handle the ups and downs of life. Getting drunk or high was my response to every feeling. For example, if you made me angry, I would get “drunk at you” for revenge. It really was as silly and self-destructive as it sounds. I was so scared of that monster, my emotions in the closest, that I’d rather self-destruct than face them.

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Regret in Addiction Recovery Doesn’t Have to Lead to Relapse

Regret in Addiction Recovery Doesn’t Have to Lead to Relapse

Regret in addiction recovery can be a dangerous emotion that leads to relapse. But there are healthy ways to put regret behind you for good. Here's how.

Overcoming regret in addiction recovery can feel impossible because when a person is in active addiction, he or she tends to repeat the same mistakes over and over. I’ve been there, I know the guilt, shame and embarrassment that accompany regret, and I know how important it is to find a way to overcome it. It’s important because regret can be a huge obstacle to people getting better and a huge risk for relapse. That happened to me, too. I wasn’t able to deal with my regret and that caused me to go back out and drink – time and time again. Since then, I have learned that even though regret is painful, dealing with it is part of the recovery process and healing. It is possible to overcome regret in addiction recovery, even if it isn’t easy.

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Setting Limits in Addiction Recovery: My Goodbye to Debunking Addiction

Setting Limits in Addiction Recovery: My Goodbye to Debunking Addiction

Learning to set limits in addiction recovery is vital for overall wellness (Applying Addiction Lessons When We Need a Hiatus). In knowing my own limitations, I have decided it is best for my addiction recovery to say goodbye as an author of Debunking Addiction

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What to Do When Old, Addictive Behavior is Leading to Relapse

What to Do When Old, Addictive Behavior is Leading to Relapse

Old, addictive behaviors can crop up, leading to a relapse. These are often traits that served us well in our addiction by enabling us to use or drink with minimal interference. By evaluating our behavior through the lens of humility, we are able to see when old, addictive behaviors resurface and if they may be leading you to a relapse.

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Revisit Painful Memories to Improve Sobriety

Revisit Painful Memories to Improve Sobriety

Learning how to revisit painful memories can improve your sobriety by cleaning up negative emotions that no longer serve you. Recalling old wounds may seem scary, traumatizing, and unnecessary to some, but my experience has been overwhelmingly positive. While difficult and unpleasant at the time, the discomfort was outweighed by the relief I felt afterward (Unwanted Trauma Memories – How Do You Get Rid Of Them?). It’s important to take certain steps during this process to ensure it has a positive outcome. Here are some tips on how to process painful memories to improve your sobriety in 2016.

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Handling Holiday Obligations in Alcohol Recovery

Handling Holiday Obligations in Alcohol Recovery

Love it or hate it, the holiday season always brings obligations and you have to handle holiday obligations in alcohol recovery. It can be tricky to navigate those obligations. For me, feeling overwhelmed is just as a big an alcoholism trigger as alcohol itself so I have to be careful in my alcohol recovery with regards to holiday obligations.. 

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Alcoholics and Self-Sabotage: Why Do We Do It?

Alcoholics and Self-Sabotage: Why Do We Do It?

An alcoholic self-sabotages when she tries to evade negative feelings and consequently creates more problems in her life (Ways to Avoid Negative Coping Skills). Alcoholics commonly self-sabotage their relationships, sobriety, and career as they try to avoid feelings they often buried with alcohol. Most of the time, they are not even conscious that they are sabotaging themselves, unless it is pointed out to them. For this reason, it’s important for alcoholics and their support network alike to understand why incidents of an alcoholic’s self-sabotage most often occurs around a sobriety milestone or a significant life change.

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