Recently I was contacted by someone who was unfortunately going through a divorce. He felt that his spouse left him because he was bipolar. He asked me the question that so many people with a mental illness have asked themselves: I’m bipolar – will anyone ever love me?
Well, I can’t tell the future, but I do know a few things about love.
Yup, People with Bipolar Love
I know many people with bipolar disorder who love deeply. OK, I am a person with bipolar disorder that loves deeply.
People with bipolar disorder couple, live together, marry, have children and participate in relationships, just like everyone else. I’ve known some of these people. And from what I can tell, people with bipolar disorder have the same chance as everyone else of being in a happy coupling.
Do Others Love People with Bipolar Disorder?
In a word, yes. People fall in love with people with bipolar disorder every day. Seriously. I’ve seen them do it. People fall head-over-heels, emotional faceplant, birds-are-chiping in love with people with bipolar disorder.
You Have the Ability to Love and to Be Loved
Because in the end, people don’t fall in love with you because of a single line in your biography. People don’t fall in love with you because of your hair color, because you can walk or because your cells are mutation-free. People fall in love with you. The you that is you. The you that is all parts of you wrapped up into one neat little fleshy package.
And remember, no one would question whether others with a disability or disease could be loved – of course they can. Can people in a wheelchair be loved? Can people with cancer? Can people with seizure disorders? No one would doubt for a moment that these people are as loveable as everyone else and yet us, with a brain disorder suffer from doubt.
Is bipolar disorder an issue in a relationship? Yes, of course it is, but it isn’t an insurmountable one nor is it an all-defining one. Every person has challenges some of our just happen to be defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM).
Love is tough to find even for the most well among us, but Love Happens, just like bipolar disorder.