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Ease Anxiety In Nature

Ease Anxiety In Nature

Do you look to nature to ease your anxiety? If not, please try it!

Forest Bathing

Recently it has been all over the internet how Japanese scientists have discovered that the scent of trees, the sound of brooks, and the feel of sunshine have a calming effect. Japanese engage in an activity they call shinrin-yoku, “forest bathing.” And we can all do this.

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Parents Worry About Their Children

Parents Worry About Their Children

My anxiety shot through the roof when I became a parent. Everything seemed a little more important. I had a huge responsibility to keep this other human being safe and happy. Not just responsibility, but a strong desire to give him the world and never let him suffer.

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Anxiety Makes You Feel Unreal and Disconnected

Anxiety Makes You Feel Unreal and Disconnected

Anxious because you feel unreal, disconnected? Now find out what to do! Stop being terrorized by anxiety and panic attacks. Check this out.

Panic attacks suck the reality out of us!

I talked two people down from panic attacks recently and both of them had been worrying that they had lost touch with reality. They felt totally disconnected to the world around them. In talking to them, they were so convincing. I almost believed that this episode was different. But I let go of my own fear for them. (My worry doesn’t help anyone.) I quickly assessed that they were not, in fact, psychotic. They were speaking rationally and eloquently.

And I remember from my panicky days how I felt different and disconnected.

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Afraid of Failure? 4 Steps to Weakening Your Fear of Failure

Afraid of Failure? 4 Steps to Weakening Your Fear of Failure

Have you ever felt like a failure? I totally have. But I am not alone. There is an epidemic of feelings of failure in our country. And failure is so definitive. When you think you failed, there is not much wiggle room to be anything other than “a failure.” A horrible way to see yourself! This becomes a belief ingrained and tainting everything else we do and try.

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Evolutionary Roots of Fear

Evolutionary Roots of Fear

Why is fear so powerful that it takes over even our rational mind?

The answer to that is that survival is the most important consideration in evolutionary development. In an article in the December 14, 2007 Newsweek, entitled “The Roots of Fear,” Sharon Begley writes:

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Anxiety and Evasiveness: Is There a Point?

Anxiety and Evasiveness: Is There a Point?

Anxiety feeds evasiveness, meaning anxiety has a way of shooting down the point to everything you want to do. We may want to do something but anxiety makes us see everything as an uncomfortable activity. In our imagination, it seems unpleasant, unenjoyable. We think and we say that we don’t want to go. Anxiety makes us feel like there is no point. No point to trying because it is too uncomfortable, or no point because we won’t succeed anyway.

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Ending a Relationship: How Do You Know When Enough Is Enough?

Ending a Relationship: How Do You Know When Enough Is Enough?

When deciding if and when to leave or end a relationship, how do we wade through the thoughts and consequences? How do you know when enough is enough?

When deciding on ending a relationship, the first question we ask ourselves is: How do I know when enough is enough? Someone very special and beautiful asked me that question this week.

In our culture, we are faced with all kinds of messages about relationships: see the good in people, relationships take work, rise above, and don’t have too many expectations. Then, don’t put up with anyone’s disrespect, take care of yourself, set limits, leave abuse. These messages convolute all our decisions on how to set boundaries in relationships or know when it is right for us to leave them. We don’t know who to blame, us or them.  Add to it worry and fear about being alone, or being abandoned, or about other people judging you, and it becomes a maze to wade through.

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Invalidation Anxiety

Invalidation Anxiety

I made up “Invalidation Anxiety” two weeks ago, as I wrote Too Anxious To Speak Up? And was fascinated how many people were sparked by my words and left a lively debate in the comment section. We seem to have all been in situations when people have ridiculed or downgraded us.

Some readers were adamant that it is a must for our mental health that we should never allow anyone to be mean, take advantage, or criticize us without standing up for ourselves. I totally agree. But my definition of “allow” might be different!

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Don’t Miss The Fireworks!

Don’t Miss The Fireworks!

Panicky Fourth Of July

One year panic almost had me missing the fireworks. I was so anxious that I took my son, who was then a baby, and left the rest of the family on the blanket we set up to watch the fireworks.

I could not get out of there fast enough eager to reach the “safety” of my house. (Where I would continue to panic anyway.) I got to my car and was stuck in firework traffic, I could not leave. Sitting there, trying to breathe, I saw the first firework going off. It was beautiful. Fireworks were one of my favorite things when I was young. But I didn’t care, I just wanted to get home.

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Too Anxious To Speak Up?

Too Anxious To Speak Up?

Has any of you been too anxious to speak up?

I have. So many times in my life! In the past, when I have spoken up for myself, I have been treated like I am overreacting. This has made me anxious to speak up the next time.

People had called me crazy, critical, over-reactor, and ridiculous. They have told me to “calm down,” and relax, making it look like my fault instead of acknowledging the injustice done to me. This is a tactic of power. It undermines the protests and does a great job of shutting me up. Exactly what that person wants. To ward off more resistance.

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