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Genital touching - women

Many women have never taken a proper look at their genitals and find even the thought of doing so a little embarrassing. Psychosexual therapist Paula Hall describes an exercise that'll help you feel more relaxed about your body.

Preparation

  • Switch off the phone, lock the door and make sure you won't be disturbed.
  • Make sure your room is warm and comfortable.
  • You'll need a hand mirror.
  • It might help to start with the Get to know your body exercise first.

Don't be self-conscious

If this exercise makes you feel a bit self-conscious, remind yourself that the better you know yourself, the better your sex life will be.

Getting sexually aroused while doing this is not the aim, although it may happen. You'll find the feelings soon subside.

As you repeat these exercises, you'll become more receptive to a variety of touches and any over-sensitivity should decrease quickly.


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Take a look

Spend some time touching your stomach, bottom and thighs in a way that you already know you enjoy. Move slowly towards your pubic hair.

Prop yourself against a wall, headboard or pillows. Bend your knees and open your legs. Position the mirror against something so you can see your genitals and leave your hands free.

Notice your outer lips (labia) covered with pubic hair for protection. Open them gently and you'll see the smaller, inner lips. Look at the size and coloring. Feel your lips and note the difference in their texture and temperature.

Now pull your lips fairly wide apart. This will expose your vagina, urethra and clitoris. The inner lips usually meet at the top of the clitoral hood. This protects the clitoris.

The urethra is a small opening between the vagina and the clitoris. The area between your vagina and anus is called the perineum.

Remember - the appearance of genitals varies greatly from woman to woman. The size and shape of lips varies enormously and it's rare for them to be symmetrical. There's no 'normal' standard. You're unique.

What a feeling

Gently experiment with different types and pressure of stroke and think about which areas are most sensitive and most pleasurable to touch.

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