YOUR WEAKNESS IS IN THE MOST IMPORTANT ASPECT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

If you are strong at "thinking together," ask yourself: "What goes wrong (mentally, and "between us") in the precise moment when I am wanting sex?," and, "What goes wrong (mentally, and "between us") in the precise moment when my partner is wanting sex?" Read the last section of this analysis on "The Best Way To Communicate For Problem-Solving" for some valuable hints to help you in this process.

If you are not particularly strong at "thinking together" I strongly suggest that you get professional help. A sex therapist is one possibility, but a therapist of one kind or another - for you as a couple or for each of you individually - would be a good idea.

(If it seems like I'm coming on too strong, remember that you are both "fighting biology" here! This puts a tremendous strain on each of you, and on your relationship.)

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ENJOY YOUR CHANGES!