Have playful, experimental, silly, exciting, intense sex, alone or with your partner. (This is the most important way adults play.)

Go to a new city and walk around with no intention other than to explore and experience it as it is. Say "Hi" to each person you meet just to notice their reaction.

Go to a comedy club expecting to laugh. Don't notice or comment on the jokes that fall flat. Focus on the ones that work for you.

Print a bunch of pictures of yourself and your friends. Make changes in them to see how each person would look blond, bald, with a mustache and beard, if their eyes were closer together, if they had a tiny or huge nose, etc. (Computer photo programs are needed for this one… or, if you can draw, you can make sketches instead.)

See what happens if you do your favorite hobby in a purposely lousy way. Photographers can take ugly shots. Dancers can stumble around. Golfers can swing wildly.

HAVE FUN YOUR OWN WAY!

Think of all the different hobbies people have. If you don't collect stamps or bowl or golf or attend operas you probably think that those who do are just wasting their time.

No matter what kind of fun we have, we can be ridiculed. Miserable grouches will ridicule every kind of fun, and even people with a great sense of humor will think our idea of fun isn't "really" fun.

That's how having fun works. It's what makes having fun so deeply satisfying. We are being ourselves FOR ourselves, not for anyone else.

Enjoy Your Changes!

Everything here is designed to help you do just that!

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