Loneliness and Fear of Rejection - Making your Relationship Resume

Written by Tom G. Stevens PhD

RELATIONSHIP RESUME'

Make your own relationship resume.
(1) It will help you become aware of what you have to offer in a relationship as well as what you want from a potential partner. It may also help you identify problem areas or areas you want to develop more.
(2) You can use this as a guide to make a plan of what you want potential partners to know about you (as soon as possible) to help "sell" you to someone who has similar values and criteria for what they are looking for. These can also be useful for answering "dating ads."

For each category below, fill in aspects of yourself that relate to that category.

BIOGRAPHICAL INFORMATION
Name, age, ethnic, etc.

EDUCATION AND OCCUPATIONAL INFORMATION
Accomplishments (Education, Work Experience, etc.)

Goals (major) and why

INTEREST, FUN, RECREATION

• Observer (TV, movies., cultural events, stereo music)
• Active (aerobics, tennis, dancing, golf, biking)
• Romanic (romantic walks, music candlelight, flowers, card, gifts )
• Parlor games (Trivial Pursuit, cards)
• Hobbies (photography, painting, computers, etc.)
• Intellectual interests (science, history, literature, philosophy, religion, computers, psychology )

PEOPLE

• Family (all about them)
• Friends & social activities, interests

COMMUNICATION SKILLS & HABITS

• intimacy (openness, honesty)
• affectionate
• empathetic understanding
• assertive (friendly, fair, diplomatic)
• desire equality vs. traditional male-female

BELIEFS and PERSONALITY FACTORS

• honesty/integrity
• optimism/positive attitude and point of view
• self-esteem/confident
• independent/self-reliant
• cooperative
• friendly
• sense of humor
• hard-working/motivated/ambitious
• complimentary vs. critical
• assertive vs aggressive or non-assertive
• good emotional control
• reliability
• spiritual/religious values
• material/monetary values
• family or people-related values
• career/education-oriented values
• self-development values
• giving vs self-centered
• any addictions or bad habits

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About the author: Dr. Tom Stevens was a licensed psychologist with over 25 years of psychotherapy experience and has rank equal to full professor at California State University, Long Beach, in the Counseling and Psychological Services Center. He is author of the book "You Can Choose To Be Happy: Rise Above Anxiety, Anger, and Depression."

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