To give out shame bearing black and white messages in the name of teaching love, is to me, just as destructive as a parent shaming a child to try to control them.  Our society teaches us to be shaming, manipulative, and controlling in the name of love and I find it just as screwed up and dysfunctional as fighting war in the name of God.

It is very attractive for people to believe that they can evolve spiritually without doing their grief work.  Emotions are messy, especially the old repressed ones that can feel so overwhelming.  It is natural and normal for human beings to want to do things the easier, softer way.  So, many people want to hear someone tell them that it is possible to become enlightened without healing emotionally.  Many of those so called experts will even teach that if one is feeling the emotions then one is doing something wrong.

Many people who are drawn to the New Age movement are still looking for the right way to do things, for the source outside of themselves that will give them the answers, for the aliens in space ships who will save them from the pain of this human experience.  The goal in this Age of Healing and Joy, in my understanding, is to learn to look within to find The Source.  To own our Spiritual Essence and our humanity - and to integrate Spirituality into the human experience so that we can achieve some balance in this human dance we are doing.

One does not have to be perfect to be a channel.  One of the most important best selling books - a book that introduced millions of people to seeing life from a spiritual perspective - was written by a practicing alcoholic.  Some of the greatest spiritual teachers have a marvelous gift for communicating Truth - but have a problem with applying that Truth in relationship to themselves.

Anyone who teaches that there is a right and wrong way to heal, is trapped in the black and white, polarized thinking of the disease of codependence.  Anyone who gives the message that there is a destination to be reached is empowering the concept of conditional love.  Anyone who gives shaming messages is projecting their own unhealed wounds outward.

This is an important issue to me, because black and white misinterpretations of Metaphysical law cause codependents to judge and shame themselves - which is not aligned with the ultimate Metaphysical Truth of Love.