To him, appearances notwithstanding, you are utterly interchangeable, dispensable and replaceable.

I know that you find this difficult to believe - isn't the very essence of pride the belief that we are INdispensable, IRreplaceable, unique?

Yet, to the narcissist we are mere instruments for his gratification.

He derives pleasure from humiliating others, basks in their pain (which he interprets as proof of his omnipotence), derives narcissistic supply from their attention and adulation.

Your departure will only vindicate him and validate his basic distrust of humans and human nature.

There is nothing you can do about this deep seated misanthropy.

Your staying will not stay it - and your departure will not enhance its venom.

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