The narcissist is the first to admit the difficulties experienced by others in trying to adapt or relate to him. To his mind, these difficulties make him unique and explain away the gap between his grandiose theories about himself - and the grey, shabby pattern that is his life (the Grandiosity Gap). The narcissist has no doubt who should adapt to whom: the world should adjust itself to the narcissist's superior standards and requirements (and, thus, incidentally, transform itself into a better place).

Inevitably, the sexuality of the narcissist is as disturbed as his emotional landscape.

We distinguish three types of Sexual Communicators (and hence, the same number of modes of sexual communications):

1. The Emotional-Sexual Communicator - is, first, attracted sexually to his potential mate.
   He then proceeds to examine how compatible they are and only then does he fall in love and have sexual intercourse.
   He forms a relationship that is based on a perception of the other as a whole, as an amalgam of attributes and traits, good and bad.
   His relationships last reasonably long and they disintegrate as incremental changes in the psychological makeup of the two parties encroach upon their mutual appreciation and create emotional deficiencies and hunger which can be satisfied only by resorting to new partners.
2. The Transactional Sexual Communicator - first examines whether he and the prospective mate are mutually compatible.
   If he finds compatibility, he proceeds to test the mate sexually and then forms habits, which, put together, present a fair semblance of love, though a dispassionate one.
   He forms relationships with people he judges to be reliable partners and good friends. Only a modicum of desire and passion is added to this brew - but its mettle is, usually, very strong and relationships formed on these bases are the longest.
3. The Purely Sexual Communicator - is first, attracted sexually to his potential mate.
   He then proceeds to sexually explore and test the counterparty.
   This interaction leads to the development of an emotional correlate, partly the result of a forming habit.
   This communicator has the shortest, most disastrous relationships. He treats his mate as he would an object or a function. His problem is a saturation of experiences.
   As any addict does, he increases the dose (of sexual encounters) as he proceeds and this tends to severely destabilise his relationships.

Summary Table: Types of Communicators