David: What about physical bullying and if it continues to escalate? And here, I'm talking about taunting, pushing and shoving, and fighting without a weapon?
Kathy: You need to first try to settle the conflict peacefully - talking it out. If the bully doesn't want to talk and continues to hurt you, avoid him at all costs. If he still goes after you, it's good to know martial arts, to walk to school in groups not alone, to avoid alley ways...and at this point, the school, parents and police should be involved.
David: Kathy Noll's website is: http://hometown.aol.com/kthynoll.
And finally, Kathy, at what point do you recommend that the parents become involved in intervening?
Kathy: The parents can become involved at any point. Even in the beginning, if the child comes to you for help. He may not feel he can handle the conflict on his own and may ask you for ideas and assistance. But, most definitely, when you are threatened with bodily injury.
David: Now, I know that some parents have the attitude: "well son or daughter, it's time you grow up and learn to handle this on your own". Is that a good thing?
Kathy: Yes, teach them responsibility. Teach them that their actions have consequences and to take responsibility for their own actions. Also to apologize when they know they are at fault.
David: Maybe I didn't make myself clear. I'm referring to telling your child (the victim) to figure out a way to deal with the bully on their own?
Kathy: Don't do that if they are asking you for help. Many bullies are created when parents lack in supervision.
David: Thank you, Kathy, for being our guest tonight. And I want to thank everyone in the audience for coming and participating. I hope you found it helpful. Again, Kathy's website is: http://hometown.aol.com/kthynoll.
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Kathy: Thanks David. And thank you everyone. I hope you found the information tonight to be both interesting and helpful.
David: Good night everyone.
Kathy Noll has written a series of articles on bullies and how to deal with bullies.
- Child on Child Violence
- Help For Parents and Teachers On Dealing With Bullies and School Violence
- Bully Advice For Kids
- Empowering Kids to Deal with Bullies and Low Self-esteem
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