Hi, I will say to tell him. I know it might be a lot for him to handle, but maybe if you don't tell him it could be worse. Because sooner or later he will find out. How do think he is going to take it?

Yes think about it and also if you decide to tell him, think very well how to tell him. For me hubby is my main support, so I would definitely tell him, because even we will worry too, but he also knows the whole story, so he can  know and be better and handling it, for me and him.

I wish you the best luck and I also wish that whatever you decide it's for the best.

Oh, what a good idea, Chanda.  I didn't have to do that with the PTSD because he already knew quite a bit about it.   but not this, so thank you!

I hope the info you send is useful for him, because having good info is very very important. So how did he took it later? I hope good. How do you feel now that you told him?

Hi Maria, sorry for being so late getting back to you.  He took it well -- but, it turns out my therapist and psychiatrist got together and decided I don't have schizoaffective disorder after all.  I think now that my psychiatrist was just thinking out loud and brainstorming about my symptoms, which now all are agreed are related to my severe PTSD and major depression.  Thank you for responding and helping me through this!

Hi narcissicimcured, I agree with you to some extent.  For example, my husband doesn't want to know the specifics of every incident of abuse I went through and I respect that.  I am not sure I would want to know, either.  Probably not.  But he obviously feels he knows me well enough to stay married with me through all this, and I think he knows enough to understand me.  I think that's how he can be so patient.  I'm very lucky.  Thank you for sharing your insight!