Hi, Im also new here. Im in a relationship with a husband who is mentaly abusive. He used to be physically abusive but I left him, then we got back together. He was using drugs then so I thought thats the only reason he was physically abusive then. Well he is not doing drugs anymore and he no longer hits me, but he is mentaly abusive. Last night we got into an arguement because he got mad because he could not find an envelope. He said Im through living like this. Which in the past has ment he is leaving me again. Anyway I got him an envelope. He said I was lazy that I never do anything, then he started putting me down because I has thawed meat out  for diner, but not cooked it , this was because I am sick right now with an upperrespiratory infection and had been running a fever of 101 off and on all day which he knew, as he had the same sickness the week befor I got it. So he was so mad he shoved me then hit me in my leg with his fist. He started yelling the house is a mess, and im just a lazy b----,  But the house is not a mess, its not even dirty!!!. He said I was good for nothing. then I started argueing back with him, trying to stand up for myself He got madder beause of this and got in my face and treatened to hit me again. I told him to stop that he was scaring me, but he kep saying he was going to hit me in the face and he was shoving his fist in my face so i kicked him to get him off of me, then he picked up a large glass of tea and threw it all over me in the bed.What??? I was so shocked!! I started crying, I said I cant beleive you threw tea at me when Im sick and running a fever! He said I had to you kicked me, but I guess that doesnt matter its all about you, it always is. I was so sad, angry, disappointed, hurt. I changed the bed, while he steadily told me how worthless I was. I layed down and went to sleep. This morning he got up and went to work. Like nothing ever happen!!! I am on unemployment. I pay ALL of our bills. He just started working 4 weeks ago. My money STILL pays our bills, and he wants to act like Im worthless?? Im not going to live like this. I just went through a misscarriage two weeks,befor this and he had no empthay for me then either.  Im just waiting to get my ducks in a row. I need to not be sick, then get a job, I am starting theray this week. I called then today. I need the positive feedback. All I have been hearing is him putting me down. I REFUSE to live like this!!! I willl get my confidence back through therapy and I WILL put myself in a better place.!!! This is no way to live. Im miserable!!! Please Pray for my strength. He always treats me bad when I get sick, which is very rare! What a cheap shot, he kicks me when Im down, but I will get back up, Iv been here befor, but I wont stay!!!!!! No One should!!!

Hi - I am so sorry to hear about your situation. But you are doing the right thing by getting into therapy and not wanting to take the negatives from your partner.   When you really need support especially after a miscarriage - when you may be grieving - I know how this had effected me - take very good care of yourself - you deserve care and love.  so good you came on here.  Take very good care.