BRITTCAMS: I have been doing very well for the last few months and have put on a lot of weight. When will I ever stop feeling "fat"? will I ever be able to look in a mirror again and see my real self?
Dr. Burgard: Good for you to fight back against the disease!
In my experience, people definitely grow stronger and stronger in their sense of themselves, and their comfort with their own bodies. I think if you have seen your real self before, you have not lost her! Fight for her! It is so worth it to have a real life. Good luck to you!
Tessa: Don't you think it's possible to just want to be really thin for the sake of being really thin instead of having some strange past that is causing it?
Dr. Burgard: You may want to be thin in order to have a certain *future*, yes. We are all taught to believe life will be perfect then. But your question reminds me of young women who have come to me for help, who say that their lives are fine and they should be happy and they feel very protective of their families and afraid I'm going to judge their families. There is enough junk in the air to trip up even relatively healthy families, so in a way, my interest is more in what we can do to help you want to have a real life that you own, not a fantasized "perfect" thin future.
David: Here's a comment relating to my earlier question on whether being on a diet made you feel better, worse, or the same about yourself: (dangers of dieting)
mickey: I have been made feel FAT, have been on a diet all my life and always compared to my thin sister.
David: And then a few more comments on what's been said tonight:
Cutie: Everyone wants to feel attractive. I would suggest that people should concentrate on what attracts them to certain individuals they admire. I think many will find that what makes them special and ATTRACTIVE has nothing to do with their weight.
Lori Varecka: I tell my kids that they are just right, the way they are. Not that simple though. Self talk is hard to do day after day after day.
Barbara2: I think many people in many cultures strive for what they define as perfection - but perfection is culturally defined and differs. It does seem ironic that in this culture 55% of people are considered to be overweight.
beth12345: With me, when I eat anything and I don't throw it up, I feel I have to punish myself. I do this by cutting myself. It's not me really, but something in my head that tells me to.
Tink: It is a way of failing.
shell_rn: This is just my opinion, but weight is not the only factor to having a poor body image.
David: Well, it's getting late. I want to thank Dr. Burgard for being our guest tonight and sharing her knowledge and expertise with us.
Dr. Burgard: Thank you all for such great questions and comments!
David: I also want to thank everyone in the audience for coming and participating. I hope you found it helpful.
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Good Night everyone.
Disclaimer: We are not recommending or endorsing any of the suggestions of our guest. In fact, we strongly encourage you to talk over any therapies, remedies or suggestions with your doctor BEFORE you implement them or make any changes in your treatment.
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