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Page 1 of 2 In my work, I sometimes feel that there is an epidemic of low self-esteem. Even people who seem to be very sure of themselves will admit to having low self-esteem, a feeling that often makes them unhappy and keeps them from doing some of the things they want to do and being the kind of person they want to be. In fact, they may say that low self-esteem causes, or worsens, their bouts with depression and anxiety.
I know this has been a big factor in my life. I feel that I am always working on raising my self-esteem and that I will always need to do that.
There is no single way to build self-esteem. There are many different things you can do to work on this issue, and I, myself, am always on the lookout for new ways to raise self-esteem. This article will describe some of what I have learned to date.
Get Involved
Right now you have an opportunity to do something that will help you to raise your self-esteem. Once every four years, you can vote for the person you would like to be the next President of the United States. You also have the opportunity to vote for other national, state and local officials. Irrespective of the outcome of the election, informing yourself about the candidates and voting for the ones who support issues that are important to you can make you feel good about yourself, raising your self-esteem.
Begin the process by thinking about the issues that are most important to your education, health care, the environment, taxes, defense spending, etc. If you don't know how you feel about these issues, read some related articles and talk with people who have the information you need. Then, when you know how you feel, find out which candidates support your views. Then vote for those candidates. If you feel strongly about certain candidates and have the time, you may want to volunteer to help them with their campaigns. Activism will give your self-esteem another boost.
Take Good Care of Yourself
Another way you can build your self-esteem is to take very good care of yourself. You may take very good care of others and put your own personal care last. Or your life may be so busy that you don't take the time to do the things you need to do to stay healthy. You may feel so badly about yourself that you don't bother to take good care of yourself.
Some of the things you can do to take good care of yourself include:
- Eating three meals a day that are focused on healthy foods, fresh fruit and vegetables, as well as whole grain foods and rich sources of protein like chicken and fish.
- Avoiding foods that contain large amounts of sugar, caffeine and food additives. If you can't pronounce the ingredients, you may want to avoid it.
- Getting outside and exercising every day.
- Spending some time each day doing something you really enjoy.
- Spending time each day with people who make you feel good about yourself.
- Having regular check-ups with your health care providers.
Change Negative Thoughts About Yourself to Positive Ones
Work on changing negative thoughts about yourself to positive ones. You may give yourself lots of negative self-talk. Many people do. This negative self-talk increases your low self-esteem.
You can decide now not to do this to yourself. That's great if you can do it. However, negative self-talk is often a habit that is hard to break. You may need to work on it more directly by changing negative statements about yourself to positive ones.
Begin this process by making a list of the negative statements you often say to yourself. Some of the most common ones are:
- Nobody likes me.
- I am ugly.
- I never do anything right.
- I am a failure.
- I am dumb.
- Everyone is better than I am.
- I'm not worth anything.
- I've never accomplished anything worthwhile.
Then develop a positive statement that refutes the negative one. For instance, instead of saying to yourself, "Nobody likes me," you could say, "Many people like me." You could even make a list of the people who like you. Instead of saying, "I am ugly," you could say, "I look fine." Instead of saying, "I never do anything right," you could say "I have done many things right." You could even make a list of things you have done right. It helps to do this work in a special notebook or journal.
When you have developed positive statements that refute your negative statements, read them over and over to yourself. Read them before you go to bed at night and when you first get up in the morning. Read them aloud to your partner, a close friend or your counselor. Make signs that express positive statements about you and post them where you will see them - like on the mirror in your bathroom. Then read them aloud every time you see them. Think about some other ways to reinforce these positive statements about yourself.
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