| Myths |
Reality |
| Rape is committed by crazed strangers. |
Most women are raped by "normal" acquaintances. |
| A woman who gets raped deserves it, especially if she agreed to
go to the man's house or ride in his car. |
No one, male or female, deserves to be raped. Being in a man's
house or car does not mean a woman has agreed to have sex with him. |
| Women who don't fight back haven't been raped. |
You have been raped when you are forced to have sex against your
will, whether you fight back or not. |
| If there's no gun or knife, you haven't been raped. |
It's rape whether the rapist uses a weapon or his fists, verbal
threats, drugs or alcohol, physical isolation, or your own
diminished physical or mental state, or simply the weight of his
body to overcome you. |
| It's not really rape if the victim isn't a virgin. |
Rape is rape. The issue of virginity is irrelevant. |
| If a woman lets a man buy her dinner or pay for a movie or
drinks, she owes him sex. |
No one owes sex as a payment to anyone else, no matter how
expensive the date. |
| Agreeing to kiss or neck or pet with a man means that a women
has agreed to have intercourse with him. |
Everyone has the right to say "no" to sexual activity,
regardless of what has preceded it, and to have that "no" respected. |
| When men are sexually aroused, they need to have sex or they
will get "blue balls." Once they get turned on, men can't help
themselves from forcing sex on a women. |
Men don't physically need to have sex after becoming aroused any
more than women do. Men are able to control the male organs even
after becoming sexually excited. |
| Most women lie about being raped, especially when they accuse
men they date or other acquaintances. |
Rape really happens -- to people you know, by people you know.
It happens more often than it is reported. |