Orgasm Training - Train Yourself to Have an Orgasm

A woman who experiences no or few orgasms can learn to bring herself to a climax, over time. Make sure you tell your partner what is or isn't happening to you during sex - work with him or her to train yourself to have an orgasm. Training for orgasm revolves around two things - masturbation and patience.

Patience is needed because it will take time to unlearn repressions and anxieties; and to learn the touches, feelings and thoughts that will arouse you and continue to arouse you to the point of climax. The techniques can be practiced alone - at least at the beginning - and then with your partner. Remember, they have to learn what they can do to stimulate you, it's a two-way street.

Relaxed and naked (perhaps in a warm bath), explore your body - your face and neck, breasts, nipples, stomach, thighs. Touch and stoke yourself in the way you would like to be caressed by your lover - learn and enjoy those things that really stimulate you.

If you enjoy this - it can take as long as you like - caress your labia and clitoris, gradually stroking your fingers into your vagina. Vibrators are often recommended by therapists to help with this process.

Let these sessions take as much time as you need to reach an orgasm during masturbation - take things slowly and be relaxed. There's no pressure, no clock to watch, no instant, magic climax to reach.

Eventually, you will want to share these experiences with your partner; guide them around those parts of your body that aroused you when you stimulated them - let him find other ways to arouse you too. Let your partner stimulate your clitoris - over time, when you find yourself on the brink of orgasm after your partner has touched and caressed your clitoris, move straight on to intercourse, with you or your partner continuing to stimulate your clitoris. If at any time you find you're worried about not reaching orgasm, or you suspect there might be a physical reason preventing you, consult your medical practitioner.

Last updated: 8/05

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