April 11, 2000 -- 11:32 PM EST

So much stuff.

Major news?

Both Paul and I have dietitian appointments for May 2nd. I go in at 10:30 and he goes in at 1:30.

I go for vegan/prenatal junk.

He goes in for weight gain/prenatal junk.

That's the other major news. Paul's lost 10 lbs, and this is scary because he's now at 151. On a 6'4" frame. When we were at the play this weekend, a friend asked if Paul was ok because he looked gaunt. I'd been telling him for days he'd lost weight, and he kept insisting that he was fine and when we got home he got on the scale to see a 10 lb drop. Now he couldn't deny anymore.

The healthy weight range for 6'4" tall, 25 year old man is 164-205.

When he was 160 I didn't worry too much because what's a measley 4 lbs? But he couldn't afford to lose any more.

He's so run down and tired that it frightens me. I also can't make him do anything he doesn't want to do for himself. I love him and I want him healthy, but I feel like I am fighting with him at every turn or turning into a nagging bitch -- Eat! Eat! Eat!

So I am frustrated as to what to do with him, how to coax him to remember to eat more often, and how to get him to weight train to put on muscle.

I'm struggling between not wanting to even touch meat for vegan reasons and cooking him food I know he will eat because he is clearly not well. What do I make? What I eat would be fine if he ate it in the quantities I eat it in, but he doesn't eat great quantities of food. He barely eats anything. So I need to make sure whatever goes into him is as calorie and nutrient dense as possible.

What do I do?!

Men suck. :P

~Astrophe