A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTS

You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.
You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.
You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people's problems.
You have the right to make mistakes--and be responsible for them.
You have the right to say, "I don't know."
You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.
You have the right to say, "I don't understand."
You have the right to say, "That is unacceptable to me."
You have the right to say, "I don't care."

We have the right to have needs and to have those needs be as important as other people's needs.
We have the right to ask other people to respond to our needs.
We have the right to have feelings--and to express these feelings in ways which do not violate the dignity of other people.
We have the right to decide whether we'ill meet other people's expectations or whether we'ill act in ways which fit us, as long as we act in ways which don't violate other people's rights.

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO SAY NO, WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY!

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