Performance Anxiety

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Keep in mind that performance anxiety can escalate, since the first incident ends up making you feel like it'll happen again and keep happening.

Performance anxiety can end up having very real physical consequences. When anyone becomes anxious, their body releases chemical intermediaries (catecholamines -- biologically active compounds that serve a variety of functions. Dopamine, noradrenaline and adrenaline are catecholamines) into the blood stream, which triggers the involuntary "fright or flight" response.

Ultimately, blood vessels end up causing the less vital areas on your body (like your little buddy, for instance) to constrict, so that the blood flow to areas crucial to immediate survival (the heart, lungs and skeletal muscles) keep adequate stability.

All this professional talk is just to let you know that this is a normal reflex that maximizes the ability to fight or run to protect your life. The problem is that it's happening at a time when it's not needed, like, say, when you're trying to get it on with Mrs. Robinson.

the power of positivity

Take the pressure off of yourself; remember it takes two to tango. Don't rush into having sex, rather take the time to appreciate the woman that you have before your eyes. She's yours for the taking and if you would simply focus all of your attention on her, you're nervousness would slowly dissipate.

Keep in mind that performance anxiety affects almost everyone, from the beginner to the most seasoned professional; you're not a freak and you're definitely not alone. Keep telling yourself that you are the man; always stay positive and know that you have complete control over your body. Enforce that control.

As well, communicate with your significant other, or better yet, spend the evening talking about all the dirty deeds you imagine doing to one another. It'll take your mind off your temporary drawback, and may even encourage the sleeping giant to awaken and take his woman, and make love with her like never before.

The power of positive thinking can help you accomplish anything, and if you believe that you will have great sex, you will. And believe it or not, after the first time you overcome this performance anxiety, you will have the confidence to turn your self-fulfilling prophecy into something positive.

With patience, a clear mind, and a comfortable relationship with a great woman, you'll be able to free yourself of this vicious cycle and engage in that kick-butt sex you always knew you were destined for.

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Last updated: 8/05

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