Bully Advice For
Kids
by Kathy Noll- author of the book: "Taking The Bully By The Horns"
BULLIES CAN MAKE YOU
FEEL
  
  
Sad
Depressed Angry Vengeful Scared Confused
How A Bully Becomes A Bully
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He (or she) is angry. Someone might have bullied him
in the past.
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He has a low self-esteem. He thinks controlling you
will help him
 feel
better about himself.
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He might have been exposed to a lot of violence in the
media. (TV, books...) A lot of movies make violence look cool. But if you look
closer, the "good guy" is always cooler!
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His (or her) friends, or peers, could be a
"bad" influence, talking him into doing things he may, or may not,
understand are wrong.
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His caretakers might have lacked in supervision. They
might have been too busy to teach him how wrong it is to hurt others. Or maybe
they spoiled him, making him think he can do anything he wants, including
bullying!
What To Do About Bullies
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Inform your teachers & parents. If his bullying is
physical or violent, tell them not to give your name. That could make the bully
 more angry, and then he'll come after you harder.
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Travel to school or social events in groups. Don't
walk alone.
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Avoid the bully at all costs.
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Ignore him. That will take away his power he
"thinks" he has over you. He'll get bored, and go look for someone
else to pick on.
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Confront him with the problem. Do this only if the
bullying is mental, not physical. Maybe you can explain how it makes you feel.
If he doesn't care, and continues to bully you, report him, and avoid him.
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Take a safety training workshop. This should only be
used as a last resort (in self defense). Using this to show off for your
friends, or simply because someone made you angry, could lead to law suits, and
YOU becoming a bully!
Their futures are so bright that they have to wear shades.
Take care of yourselves
& stay safe. : )
Kathy Noll has written a series of articles on
bullies and how to deal with bullies.
If you'd like to learn more about bully and
self-esteem issues, purchase Kathy Knoll's book: Taking The Bully By The Horns.
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