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Never Forget Why You Stopped Self-Harming

May 24, 2014 Jennifer Aline Graham

It’s just as hard for those who have stopped self-harming to move past daily, difficult urges to hurt themselves. Triggers are everywhere. When some may see a pen cap as, well, a pen cap, you may see it as a way to release some stress. For those who use paper clips to hold together papers together, you may see the sharp edge as the escape you need.

These triggers still hit home for those who haven’t self-harmed in years. Even when you have found other ways to overcome negative thoughts, flashbacks of self-harm may still flicker in your mind. Memories are built into the music you listen to, the smells surrounding you and the people you keep by your side. Sometimes, these memories bring you back to an unsafe time.

When you feel as if you are going to give in to an urge to self-harm, remember why you stopped self-harming in the first place.

Always Remind Yourself Why You Stopped Self-Harming

I’ve talked about a place called Camp Good Days and Special Times before. It’s an organization that helps families that have been touched by cancer. Being a cancer survivor, and having my brother pass away from the disease, I have come to realize how truly amazing this organization is.

It's important to remind yourself of why you stopped your self-harming. Here's why I stopped self-harming and how you can remind yourself of why you did too.

Recently, a flood left Camp Good Days in shambles. The cabins were filled with water and mud and the stream running beside the grounds took over a large portion of the camp. The pictures brought me to tears and made me remember how this beautiful place was one of the main reasons I began the journey to stop self-harming.

After seeing so many children hit by cancer, I knew that the pain I was causing to myself seemed selfish compared to the pain they were struggling with.

Sometimes, it takes an eye-opening situation to remind you of why you decided to stop self-harming. It’s important to remind yourself of the reasons you decided to choose safe behaviors over negative ones. Maybe it was a discussion you had with a therapist or someone you look up to. Maybe it was the death of a loved one or someone dealing with a disease that made you re-think your decisions.

Remind Yourself of Why You Stopped Self-Harming

Post pictures around your room that remind you of the positive reasons you stopped self-harming. Write down the reasons and put them in places you go to often so when the urges strike, you’ll have a reminder. You need to encourage yourself to continue living the self-harm free life you have been.

Help Camp Good Days with the flood relief so that children can make positive memories they will never forget.

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APA Reference
Aline, J. (2014, May 24). Never Forget Why You Stopped Self-Harming, HealthyPlace. Retrieved on 2024, March 28 from https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/speakingoutaboutselfinjury/2014/05/never-forget-why-you-stopped-self-harming



Author: Jennifer Aline Graham

Lory
May, 29 2014 at 7:22 pm

Can you please send me information about self harming. I would also appreciate any information you can send
me about depression. I have a close friend that has issues with his daughter and I am also going through depression issues.

John Rokie
May, 26 2014 at 6:59 am

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GreggJ
May, 25 2014 at 4:20 pm

Oops... "and how they COPE."

GreggJ
May, 25 2014 at 4:18 pm

It is good to connect and to empathize with others. Self-harm is usually an internal thing, kept to ones' self, hidden. Reaching out need not be just seeking other self-harmers (although that is highly recommended), but to, as this article demonstrates, other people in the world that suffer from pain of all kinds, and how they code.
This site has a great deal of places to start searching and connecting. Follow the links!

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