Category Archives: Working with Alters
Managing the self-sabotaging behaviors that make life with Dissociative Identity Disorder so difficult doesn’t mean getting rid of them. It means learning to live with them; recognizing and investing in the opportunities for growth inherent in self-sabotage. For me, that … Continue reading
I define self-sabotaging behaviors within Dissociative Identity Disorder as any thought, feeling, or action by any member of the system that actively impedes the intentions and goals of any other member of the system. Self-sabotage, by my definition, is a … Continue reading
Self-sabotage is hard for anyone to deal with. But I think managing self-sabotaging behaviors when you have Dissociative Identity Disorder is more difficult. So when I say that I think doing so is a matter of acceptance, communication, and compromise, … Continue reading
You really want to lose weight but you keep stocking your pantry with junk food, “for the kids.” This is self-sabotage, the frustrating outcome of conflicting conscious and subconscious desires. If you have Dissociative Identity Disorder, self-sabotage is more complex. … Continue reading
I’ve lived virtually my whole life with a vague but pervasive sense that somewhere there were people I couldn’t see who knew things about me I didn’t. When I was diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder, I finally understood that the … Continue reading
If you have Dissociative Identity Disorder you’ve probably been instructed at least once to create a map of your system. A system map, I’ve been told, is essentially a recording on paper of alters’ names, ages, and roles – arranged … Continue reading
When I was first diagnosed with Dissociative Identity Disorder, I did what I always do when faced with something I have no idea how to handle: I went to the library. As a rule, I don’t read autobiographical accounts of … Continue reading
Dissociative Identity Disorder can leave you feeling like much of your life is out of your hands, subject to the varying agendas of your alters. Last week, in the comments to my post Love and DID: Sometimes More is Less, … Continue reading
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