So many times I’ve heard civilians say, “You mean, major trauma that leads to PTSD happens outside of the military?” The answer, of course, is a big, resounding, YES! The problem is that we don’t have enough sources demystifying trauma and PTSD so that it’s easy to see where it comes from and how it happens. (Finding Meaning in Trauma and PTSD)
Have you ever heard about someone else’s awful traumatic experience and thought that yours was inconsequential, or less awful? All too often we look at the experience of others and judge our own experiences against them. But that’s fundamentally wrong. Just because your trauma may not, on the surface, appear “as bad” as someone else’s doesn’t mean it’s any less traumatic or has less adverse effects.
Adding to this kind of thinking is the opinion of other people. Whether you’re in a competitive support group where members try to outdo each other with horror stories, or you’re surrounded by people who don’t understand what trauma is, it’s easy to feel devalued and invalidated by the comments of the world outside.