Previously, I proposed that trust of your therapist is necessary if you are to achieve the success you hope for when engaging their services. At the least, you hope for reduction of the undesirable trauma and/or PTSD symptoms which bring you to therapy in the first place. You should also hope to regain at least some of what you’ve lost because of the intrusion of these symptoms into your daily life. Working collaboratively and cooperatively on these important, challenging goals is the only reasonable plan for you to adopt.
But, there are serious challenges to overcome. Initially, your therapist is a stranger to you. You already feel under assault by life and are likely to view new and unknown situations with distinct wariness – a “negativity bias”. Coming to therapy with any kind of trauma history problem, you will tend to view your therapist in terms of your previous personal experiences with other people, and this can lead to serious distortions of perception. Finally, even if your therapy situation is very clearly safe (in the eyes of most people), you may be unable to recognize this, if your personal history has given you little or no previous experience with “safe situations”. How will you address these challenges? I have some proposals for you to consider.