Insecurity comes from the media, our culture, and our inner feelings. Learn how insecurity and the media’s provocative images are related and how self-esteem can be built.
Many times, people relate confidence and self-esteem to their outer appearance, rather than their internal qualities. This is often the first thing I hear from clients when asked what they like about themselves: they give me features that others have suggested to be physically appealing rather than skills, accomplishments, and personality traits they feel to be true. Often, they truly don’t even believe the compliments, “well my friends say I have pretty hair” or “Other guys tell me I’m in good shape.” Let’s be honest, how can they not? It’s difficult to get that deep, especially in a culture that bombards us with images that are impossible to achieve without Photoshop. The emphasis on external perfection is detrimental to both male and females, as it confuses self-esteem and self-worth with one’s appearance.