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Taking A Stand Against Abuse Requires A Touch of Fear

Taking A Stand Against Abuse Requires A Touch of Fear

I feel responsible for teaching my oldest son that it is all right to act out physically when things don’t go his way. I allowed him to watch his father and I perpetuate the cycle of violence in our home. I didn’t walk away from my marriage as soon as I now wish I could have. My son learned that when a grown-up man doesn’t get his way, it is normal for him to physically intimidate everyone around him until they submit to his wishes. Then, it is okay to forget it happened without an apology or discussion so long as some of his behaviors improve. So long as he turns on the charm and pretends to go along, there is no need for further conversation or remorse.

The other day, an argument with my son reminded me that doing what is right makes me feel as scared as doing what is normal makes me feel numb. The altercation began with Marc’s violent push of a full coffee cup that spilled across the table, instantly dripping into the laps of all who live in our home (except for Marc’s). The four of us immediately jumped up from the table in surprise; I instinctively ran to the kitchen to grab a towel to clean up the mess.

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Overcoming PTSD By Erasing Traumatic Learning Experiences

Overcoming PTSD By Erasing Traumatic Learning Experiences

Overcoming PTSD requires your brain to reconsolidate memories and learning experiences. This means that it must find a way to erase the old learning experience gained through trauma and put in place a new one that is associated with a more calm, peaceful and empowered experience.

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How to Fight the Holiday Blues

How to Fight the Holiday Blues

Not everyone feels warmth and joy during the holidays. More Than Borderline’s Becky Oberg talks about how to handle stress and depression during the holiday season.

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Taking Care of Your Mental Health During Periods of Stress

Taking Care of Your Mental Health During Periods of Stress

I think I talk about stress and the impact it can have on our mental health often in this blog. Hopefully, it’s not exceedingly boring. This blog is a bit different in topic. Yes, it focuses of taking care of ourselves during periods of stress, but also on how we can take care of those we love if they become ill—while knowing when to pull back.

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Bipolar and Bipolar Treatment are Moving Targets

Bipolar and Bipolar Treatment are Moving Targets

As I’ve mentioned, recently I’ve started volunteering for a local bipolar organization and what I do is give presentations to others. One part of the presentation is my “bipolar story.” It’s the story of my life before diagnosis, the process of treatment and whatnot. It’s long and, well, not that happy.

But one of the things that stands out is that treatments have turned me around, but then they stopped working and new treatments had to be found. And these new treatments were extremely hard to find. In fact, successful treatments have been found through guessing as often as through any type of clinical judgement.

And there’s a reason for this: bipolar disorder and bipolar disorder treatment are moving targets and our responses have to move with them.

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A Sociological Perspective On Mental Illness In America

A Sociological Perspective On Mental Illness In America

As you would imagine, the management of HealthyPlace rewards me handsomely for penning Funny In The Head which weekly tickles America and beyond with a droll mélange of insouciance, absurdity, and je ne sais quoi, whatever that is. This lavish remuneration has enabled me to purchase a weekend house on the Cape, a weekend cape for wearing around the house, and a meticulously restored 1933 Hispano-Suiza J12 cabriolet. Well and good, you say, but man cannot survive exclusively on dessert!

Your point is well made. Despite the almost embarrassing tsunami of wealth bestowed by the Internet’s leading, (and most decorated), mental health website, I must, on occasion, venture out into what I shall refer to as – the valley of the shadow of K-Mart – in order to supplement my income and pay for the mundane necessities of life such as spats, plimsolls, and Fred Astaire biographies. Like so many writers before me, Mark Twain, Oscar Wilde, Dylan Thomas, and Antoine Marie Jean-Baptiste Roger, comte de Saint Exupéry, to name just the most universally familiar, I take to the lecture circuit where I beat my gums, and remaining teeth, in hopes of drumming up revenue.

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The Comparison Game: You’ll Never Win

Comparing ourselves to others is a recipe for disaster and lowers our self-esteem. Find out how to feel good in your own skin with tactic to help you stop comparing and start embracing your uniqueness.

The Comparison Game: You’ll Never Win

Comparing Yourself to Others

We all play the comparison game, often times completely unaware that we will always lose in some capacity. Maybe it’s guy next to you on the treadmill who just ran a 6 minute mile while you are huffing and puffing after just a lap, or your best friend who just got engaged, when you’ve have had zero dating prospects in the last 12 months. It’s natural to compare ourselves to others, especially when we perceive them as having something we want. Our ego, or negative self-talk, tries to convince us that it’s “motivating” to look at and compare when the reality is that it’s totally self-destructive and lowers our self-esteem

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Fear of Losing Someone You Love

Fear of Losing Someone You Love

Fear of losing someone you love is a common fear. (Or something happening to someone you love.) These fears comes from a great love. The fear is love. But once you realize the love, and take action on that, there is no point to the fear. Fear is immobilizing, love is energizing.

Remember, the biological reason for fear is to get us to act, after the action, the fear is pointless. (Worse than pointless, as it hurts you.)

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Six Steps For Strengthening Your PTSD Recovery

Six Steps For Strengthening Your PTSD Recovery

A couple of weeks ago, I outlined how to transform the overwhelm of your feelings. Today, I’ve been mulling: Is it possible to outline a flexible process for doing the PTSD recovery work? While every survivor faces his/her own unique healing journey, the truth is, I think, yes, we do see universal similarities in the process.

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Shackled to Mental Health Political Correctness

Shackled to Mental Health Political Correctness

Since I’ve started writing for HealthyPlace I’ve learned a lot about what you’re not supposed to say about mental illness. Some classics are the word “crazy” and not referring to oneself as “bipolar” directly.

In other words, I’m not allowed to say I’m a crazy bipolar.

There are many other things I’m not allowed to say too. “Mental health” can only be used in some cases whereas “mental illness” must be used in others. And then there’s “behavioural health” and the myriad of rules around talking about suicide. One could get permanent writer’s block worrying about ticking off some group of people who care about some specific word.

So I have a rule. I do what I want. And I tick off some people. It’s not on purpose; it’s just that if I didn’t, how in the heck would I write?

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