Affirming Your Right to Love

Written by Adrian Newington

Getting Off The Rollercoaster

This chapter is about the recognition of self worth. It's intent is to help you obtain your entitled right to Love, and to bring about a happy and productive life. However, to receive Love, we have to give Love.

If you believe in a concept where forgiveness is meant only to be expressed outwardly and never to oneself, you will never go forward in life. But when you learn to understand and tame the Ego, and live with a Love guided by Truth and instinct, you will easily negate any feelings that try to maintain unworthiness.

Even though the potential for these feelings will always be present in our lives, the action of asserting new beliefs and thinking, will guide you to the truth that where there is Love, there is no fear. When you assert yourself, you are empowering yourself with actions motivated from Truth and Love. It will be through this new way of thinking that your actions will be automatically good and kind. You cannot be selfish when your actions are Loved based, and in knowing that, no person can rightly call you selfish.

When people lovingly assert themselves in the company of others who are still guided by any degree of Ego thinking, they will naturally relate this behaviour with their own fear based thinking. When they see people acting with a confidence born from feelings linked with Truth and love, any fears that they may be harbouring will come out in some form of opposition or resistance. An attempt to project guilt on that person for their behaviour is a typical conditioned response to actions outside their own sphere of experience and understanding. Should such circumstances arise for you, then simply activate your awareness rather than defensive options and ask yourself:

"What is the fear that motivates this persons opposition?"

As you maintain such peaceful attitudes, your commitment to the task that you are asserting yourself to will remain intact.

Here we can see how the importance of acting to ones truth is tested when people try to assert their own thinking upon you. Be Alert! because their own fear based thinking has the potential to become a limiting factor in your own growth experiences. As you learn to identify your own truth by cultivating instinct, you become more in tune with the paths that are right for you. By following your own truth, you can never fall into the trap of blaming others from entering into any mistake.

Sometimes, there may be a requirement to step out very, very boldly, but there might also be strong or conflicting signals from two or more areas. If you make a mistake, then simply try to learn from such experiences. Since you want to learn, you shall lay aside burdens of shame, guilt, or embarrassment, as you then face your newest truth which acknowledges your error.

Developing your own independence is greatly advanced by the input of other independent people. Not only from an ability to grow by example, but by nurturing and maintaining your own inner thinking which says that you no longer need be dependent on externals for your Spiritual and emotional well being.

As I mentioned in the Foreword, the action of producing this book was a remarkable help in consolidating all my feelings. Try writing down your own feelings as a tangible expression of your inner thoughts, and then read them out aloud to allow the words to come back to you. Quite often in the process of developing new thoughts of awareness, saying such thoughts silently to yourself can be thwarted by the action of the Ego fearing the process of change being established. It can wash over your important thoughts, as if to make you mumble a word within your mind. The effect is to reduce the power behind the new concept you are building; It is attempting to let you use matchsticks for the foundations of the magnificent Temple you are constructing... the Temple that will be your home forever.

Call on affirmations when you are struggling or are in pain. Quite often, there are certain times that we need to have access to a special reserve of strength when we become vulnerable through many and varied reasons. These are the times that the Ego will start about the business of asserting the old negative beliefs in attempt to kill the pain. Once again you must remember that the Ego is responding to the years of experiences that have come its way. When you come into such a situation, the very act of calling on an affirmation is a most wonderful sign that you are going forward.

Assert yourself! Feel free and Be free to be yourself. You are in control of every aspect of your life. Small and big, they all have equal importance since they all contain the things that shall empower you. You act to the moment with confidence and you have freed yourself from fear based thoughts and actions through awareness. You are a together person; you are one with yourself, and the true loving self acts with peaceful confidence in all situations.

The great variety of experiences that people write about, give us the ability to find someone who talks of aspects of life that hit very close to home. When we come across such a book, we feel we are no longer alone. We feel there are people out there who understand what is real for us. We feel that someone appreciates and cares enough to let us know that they are thinking of our situation. Even though they may not be with us in person, we can find comfort in knowing that there is always someone out there who Loves us. Such books are providing a bond for humanity from common experiences. We are never really alone, for our thoughts will always link us.

If we go on thinking that no one Loves us, then it is only because we are believing that no one would understand us or our situation. You have been afraid for nothing. YOU ARE LOVED. Go home to yourself and find your peace. When you have rested, wake up, go outside, then look around; Love will not be very far.