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Summary
All of these destructive control behaviors, used by the addict parent, act on the child, as an object of addiction, in an unhealthy way. They interfere with the healthy emotional, spiritual, and sometimes physical development of the child. Fear, terror, anger, shame, and the feeling of helplessness are all by-products of these kinds of destructive control behaviors. The child's development is crippled by these by-products, which become integrated into the child's unconscious thought process, along with the use of destructive control behaviors.
Unconscious fear, terror, anger, shame, and a sense of helplessness will unconsciously fuel the use of destructive control behaviors by the child. The child will incorporate destructive control behaviors into all of his or her relationships with people and with themselves. Controlled relationships lack intimacy. People in relationship with the child will either instinctively abandon or rebel to avoid the perception of being trapped or controlled, leaving the child without intimacy. The result for the child is a long life of emptiness, sadness, anger, grief, fear, distrust, anxiety, narcissistic feelings (egocentrism or I'm the only one that can), depression (usually concealed in falseness, false cheeriness, false image of self), discontent, despair, desperation (panic, panic attacks, and the need for immediate gratification), craziness (feeling crazy or insane), lack of fulfillment, feeling isolated, feeling helpless, feeling numb (without feeling), feeling dejected, feeling rejected, feeling unworthy, feeling resentment, somatic illness, compulsion, obsession, self destruction, and addiction.
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