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Before the giant acted on Sal
as an expulsion inhibitor, Sal experienced a simple stress cycle (figure
5). The bio-stressor of dust in the nose moved Sal into an uncomfortable
state. After moving through the lull stage, Sal's expulsion (the sneeze)
would have been all that was required to move Sal back to a peaceful
state.
However, when an expulsion
inhibitor was introduced (the twenty-four-foot giant), the cycle was
interrupted; which caused the cycle to remain unresolved back to a
peaceful state. The giant interrupted the cycle by projecting terror and
shame onto Sal which introduced new stressors and added to the old
stressor of dust in the nose. Shame and terror are emotional-stressors.
Attached to the old bio-stressor cycle of sneezing is a new cycle
created by the new stressors of terror and shame (figure 6).
This newly created cycle is
composed of two related cycles. The combining of two stress cycles is
called a"complex cycle." It is complex because it is formed from two or
more related cycles. The attached second cycle, is almost hidden from
conscious thought processes, because it is so closely attached to the
first cycle. The second cycle is a type of incredibly fast self talk
which must eventually be slowed down and examined. "Easy to say, hard to
do, but can be done over time and as a person feels a greater sense of
safety." This will be explained in more detail later in this section.
Now not only does Sal have
the original cycle to be resolved (the sneeze cycle), but in addition, a
second related cycle of shame and terror also needs to be resolved in
order to resolve to a peaceful state.
In complex cycles, each cycle
attached to (created after) a simple cycle is called "Old Baggage" if it
prevents the original simple cycle from being resolved back to the
peaceful state. Old baggage cycles need to be resolved in order for a
complex cycle to be resolved.
By using people as an object
of an addiction, I have noticed myself at different times in my life, as
well as other addicts, create complex stress cycles for infants,
toddlers, adolescents, and adults by becoming an expulsion inhibitor.
This unfortunate circumstance is created through the use of destructive
control behaviors. The use of destructive control behaviors is almost
always present in an expulsion inhibitor. And becoming an expulsion
inhibitor is not exclusive to addict parents or other dependent
authority figures. Siblings, cousins, schoolmates, bullies, and
neighborhood friends may also be added to the list of expulsion
inhibitors. Anyone in a child's awareness that has the power to use, or
incite the use of, destructive control behaviors is an expulsion
inhibitor.
So where does this leave Sal?
Like poor Sam. . . . . . . with a very complex load.
next: Help is on the Way (II)
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