My Dislikes (at the time I have them)

• People who judge other people and believe it.
• People who argue to argue or don't make sense to me.
• Women who are controlling and non-compassionate (bitches).
• Men who are controlling and non- compassionate (assholes).
• Bullies
• Cold (emotionally) people.
• People who explain excessively.
• People who seek hidden approval continuously (fish). excludes children.
• People who corrupt other people.
• People who have sex as a way to gain leverage or obligate (conditional love).
• People who censor, change, or discount what I've said as a way to repress me.
• People who rephrase what I've said as a way to control the conversation.
• People who require me to carry the conversation (do the work alone).
• People who are absent in the conversation (emotionally or verbally).
• People who intimidate other people to control them.
• Angry-hostile people.
• Scaring myself compulsively.
• People who deal in absolutes.
• People who label as a way to injure.
• People who label as a way to create expectation.
• People who label as a way to gain control.
• People who create chaos on a consistent bases.
• People who always look for something wrong.
• Doomsayers.
• People who judge other people as a way to bolster themselves.
• People who hide an agenda.
• People who don't respect boundaries.
• People who use coercion, control, rage, violence.
• People without compassion or concern.
• People who clean obsessively as a way to "look good" for others.
• People who organize obsessively.

My Needs (stable for the most part)

• Access to food, clean water, sanitation, clothing, shelter, and medical services.
• Income (for the first need) and the transportation to earn that income.
• Recovery and the income and transportation to maintain that recovery.
• School (education).
• Dreams.
• To say I can choose.
• To say I love you.
• To say I'm sorry.
• To say I need you to help me meet my need.
• To know that the screw-ups I have are healthy.
• To hold and be held.*
• To have approval (in direct and non-controlling ways).
• To express (expulsion) my "self."
• To allow my "self" choices and the possibility of choices that are unknown.
• To set boundaries (and no explanation is necessary).
• To allow myself honesty.
• To say, "I don't know" when I don't know.
• To allow my honesty to be earned and not shared indiscriminately.
• To practice safe sex.
• To practice eating as needed and not in a way to stuff or over eat.
• To stop and clear myself when I'm in chaos or subtle diversion.
• To detach.
• To be separate in order to be close.
• To know that the best I can do is too much (controlling, approval seeking).
• Acknowledging when I hurt.
• Acknowledging when I'm sore.
• Acknowledging when my stomach hurts.