Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence, Domestic Abuse - Domestic Abuse

Written by HealthyPlace.com Staff Writer

julybaby: I agree. I have told her, and she had witnessed me being abused. You would think that she would learn from my experiences.

Dr. Bein: Actually, she may have learned to be a victim from watching you. This is what she saw and learned as an impressionable child. The best thing you can do is to be a role model of empowerment to her.

milkman: Dr. Bein, I am a victim of domestic violence and can't seem to find any help. You see, I am a male and the abuser is my sister. Can you direct me?

Dr. Bein: How old are you? Do you live in the same house as your sister?

milkman: I am forty -two years old, and no we don't live in the same house, but we both work for our parents on their dairy.

Dr. Bein: There are several ways you could approach the situation. First, try talking with her and confronting her. Tell her that you will not put up with it any longer. You could ask for your parents to intervene. You may then wish to call the police and charge her with assault and battery. You may also consider getting another job.

David: What kind of abuse is your sister inflicting on you?

milkman: Verbal, physical, and mental abuse.

Dr. Bein: Perhaps with some professional help, you could learn how to confront her in an effective way to stop the verbal and mental abuse.

starlight05: A few months ago, I told my husband that I wanted a divorce. He has not paid our mortgage since, even though he has the money. I think he is doing this to show me who is in control. My home went into foreclosure and he paid all back payments, but not after letting me know that if I ever left, me and our children would be in the streets. What are my options?

Dr. Bein: He is trying to scare you and intimidate you. You have rights and I suggest that you see a lawyer to find out what your rights you have. For example, he is required to pay child support, and perhaps alimony. If you take him to court, you can also ask for him to pay court costs.

David: I know it's getting late. Thank you, Dr. Bein, for being our guest tonight and for sharing this information about domestic violence, domestic abuse with us. And to those in the audience, thank you for coming and participating. I hope you found it helpful. We have a very large abuse survivors community here at HealthyPlace.com. If you found our site beneficial, I hope you'll pass our URL around to your friends, mail list buddies, and others. http://www.healthyplace.com.

Thank you again, Dr. Bein.

Dr. Bein: Thank you for inviting me onto your program. Thank you all, and Bless!

David: Good Night everyone. I hope you have a good weekend.

Disclaimer: We are not recommending or endorsing any of the suggestions of our guest. In fact, we strongly encourage you to talk over any therapies, remedies or suggestions with your doctor BEFORE you implement them or make any changes in your treatment.

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