Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain.
The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.
When we can tell ourselves how *we* feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.
Meditation: Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself. --Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go

Hotlines

Survivors Reaching Out

5513 Hammond Court
Citrus Heights, Ca. 95621
Attn: Mary (Kitty) Clawson
ph:(916)967-0424

Holli Marshall

P.O. Box 4343
Hollywood, Ca. 90078
Attn: Dr. Lois Lee
ph:(818)908-4470/(800)551-1300/FAX:(818)908-1468
Work with children on the street and in prostitution.

National Child Abuse Hot line

(800)422-4453
Call this number for help if you have been abused, suspect a child or teenager is being sexually abused, or if you are an abuser.

Child Find Hot line

P.O. Box 277
New Paltz, NY 12561
(800)426-5678
Private, non-profit organization that helps parents locate children and helps lost children who need assistance.

Covenant House

346 W. 17th St.
New York, Ny 10011
Attn: Robert McGrath
ph:(212)727-4008/(800)999-9999
24 Hour Hotline with over 25,000 resources. Referrals for youth or parents re: drugs, homelessness, runaways, etc. Message relays reports of abuse. Help parents w/problems with their kids.

National Organization for Victim Assistance

1757 Park Road NW
Washington, DC 20010
Attn: Cheryl Tyiska
ph:(202)232-6682/(800)879-6682/FAX:(202)462-2255
Provides a Hotline for information and referral. Crisis Counseling is available at the main administrative number. ( 4000 members ) Directory of Victims Services with 10,000 listings.

Reachline

301 S. Brevard St.
Charlotte, NC 28202
ph:(704)333-6121
Reachline is a support service for individuals contemplating suicide. The hotline only serves local residents.

Portland Women's Crisis Line

P.O. Box 42610
Portland, Oregon 97242
ph:(503)235-5333
24-hour crisis hotline for domestic and sexual violence issues. Free of charge.

National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization

5190 E. Farness Dr. #112
Tucson, AZ 85712
ph:(520)323-3156
Male-oriented support group for individuals who have been sexually abused.

Helpful Numbers

American Civil Liberties Union
212-944-9800

Believe The Children
708-515-5432

Center for the Prevention of Sexual and Domestic Violence
206-634-1903

Childhelp USA/Forrester National Child Abuse Hotline
800-4A-CHILD

Family Violence Prevention Fund/Health Resource Center
800-313-1310

Justice Statistics Clearinghouse
800-732-3277

Justice For All
713-935-9300

Juvenile Justice Clearinghouse
800-638-8736

Mothers Against Drunk Driving
800-438-MADD

National Resource Center on Child Abuse and Neglect
800-227-5242

National Resource Center on Child Sexual Abuse
800-543-7006

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
800-537-2238

National Victim Center
800-FYI-CALL

National Clearinghouse on Child Abuse and Neglect
800-394-3366

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children
800-843-5678

National Criminal Justice Reference Service
800-851-3420

National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women
215-351-0010

National Domestic Violence Hotline
800-799-7233

National Organization for Victims Assistance
202-232-6682

National Clearinghouse on Marital and Date Rape
510-524-1582

National Office for Parents of Murdered Children
513-721-5683

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
303-839-1852

Office For Victims of Crime Resource Center
800-627-6872

Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network
800-656-4673

Resource Center on Child Protection and Custody
800-527-3223

Texans For Equal Justice
409-788-CARE

Workplace Violence Resource Institute
714-720-0854

Child & Family Violence Unit
Dept of Social Work
Monash University
CLAYTON VIC 3168 AUSTRALIA
Phone: + 61 3 9905 1226 Fax: + 61 3 9905 4281
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California Consortium to Prevent Child Abuse
"Working to prevent child abuse in all it's forms"
926 J Street Suite 717 Sacramento, CA 95814
916-498-8481 FAX 916-498-0825

Other Resources

Children Awaiting Parents

700 Exchange Street
Rochester, N.Y. 14608
(716)232-5110
A secular organization which unites abused children with caring adoptive parents by introducting children to families. Publishes a book of waiting children's photos and life stories.

Adoptee's Liberty Movement Association

P.O. Box 727
Radio City Station
New York, N.Y. 10101
(212)581-1568
Search and support for all persons separated from their original families by adoption.

Voices for Victims

1801 Early Settlers Road
Richmond, V.A. 23235
Attn: Dulaney Nickerson
(804)323-4448
An organization advocating the rights of survivors of abuse.

Dare To Dream Foundation

10600 Steppington, Bldg. 11
2nd Floor
Dallas, T.X. 75230
Attn: Jan Tennyson
(214)739-1900

Kids of Minnesota

P.O. Box 21-482
Eagan, MN 55121
(612)770-6164
"Remember kids in divorce settlements". Working for improvements in family law.

Children Against Rape & Molestation (C.A.R.A.M)

2060 Avenida de Los
Thousand Oaks, Ca. 91362
Attn: Desiray Bartak

Family Research Council

700 13th Street NW #500
Washington, D.C. 20005
Attn: Gary Bauer/ph:(202)393-2100 FAX:(202)393-2134
Provide research and advocacy on a broad range of issues affecting families and children.

Windows Crisis Office

Hinkley, Minnesota
(320) 384-7113

National Victim Center

2111 Wilson Blvd; Suite 300
Arlington, Va. 22201
Attn: Diane Alexander/ph:(703)276-2880 FAX:(703)276-2889
Large library and many information bulletins on many areas of victimization.
Large national organization with many resources. Also, offices in New York, NY
(212)753-6880

American Family Association

P.O. Box 2440
Tupelo, Ms. 38803
Attn: Rev. Don Wildmon/ph:(601)844-5036 FAX:(601)844-9176
Advocates against sex and violence with our society and the media.

Mothers Alliance for the Rights of Children (M.A.R.C.)

P.O. Box 635
Long Beach, MS. 39560
Attn: Lydia Rayner/ph:(601)868-8259
An advocacy group that provides information and support to victims of child sexual abuse.

Families of Sex Offenders Anonymous

152 West Walk
West Haven, CT. 06516
Attn: Carol Sotor/ph:(203)933-4571
Parents and families of sex offenders many of whom have booth perpetrators and victims within the families.

National Alliance for Family Court Justice

3919 Moss Dr.
Annandale, Va. 22003
Attn: Elisabeth Richards/ph:(703)658-3543/(800)476-8044
Works with non custodial protective parents and others with problems with the Family Court system.

American Coalition for Abuse Awareness

P.O. Box 27959
Washington, D.C. 20038
Attn: Sherry A. Quirk, Esq./ph:(202)462-4688/FAX:(202)462-4689
Lobbies for federal legislation on behalf of survivors of childhood sexual abuse, protection of children, supports the rights of victims of child abuse to receive the medical/therapeutic treatment they need.

Stop Abuse By Counselors

P.O. Box 68292
Seattle, Wa. 98168
Attn: Shirley Siegel/ph:(206)243-2723/FAX:(206)243-2773
A national, client-advocate organization founded in February of 1980. Actively assists victims; works to prevent abuse by mental health care practitioners; educates consumers; cooperates with worthy research projects and works to improve professional standards.

Bay Area Women Against Rape

357 MacArthur Blvd.
Oakland, Ca. 94610
ph:(510)465-3890
The mission of this group is to acknowledge the truth, however difficult to hear; to educate the community about the problem and to support survivors and victims in their healing.

The Sidran Foundation

2328 West Joppa Road, Suite 15
Lutherville, MD. 21093
ph:(410)825-8888/FAX:337-0747
Devoted to Advocacy, Education, and Research on behalf of people with psychiatric disabilities. Has list of therapists for traumatic stress and dissociative disorders (including DID/MPD). Many publications. Has updated list of trauma publications.

Movement To Stop Abuse

P.O. Box 3817
Arlington, Va. 22203
Attn: David Graceson/ph:(703)527-5300/FAX:(703)528-8514
Focus is to build a social movement against any type of abuse as well as provide technical assistance to other groups involved in the prevention of abuse.

Safe Space, Inc.

2604 Elmwood Ave; St. 326
Rochester, NY 14618
Attn: Mary Ellen Heyman/ph:(716)288-4786
Safe Space believes that adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse can recover from the trauma and break free from the cycles of intergenerational abuse by receiving support and encouragement on their productive lives.

Mothers Against Sexual Abuse

503 1/2 South Myrtle Ave
Monrovia, Ca. 91016
Attn: Claire Reeves/ph:(818)305-1986/FAX:(818)305-5190
Working to raise awareness on issues of childhood sexual abuse primarily California but working to expand nationwide.

One Voice

The National Alliance for
P.O. Box 27958
Washington, D.C. 20038
Attn: Anne DePrince/ph:(202)667-1160
Working to focus national attention on issues of childhood sexual abuse, as well as physical and emotional abuse. One Voice has begun a national media campaign.

Children of the Underground

6065 Roswell Road #1157
Atlanta, Ga. 30328
Attn: Faye Yeager/ph:(404)843-8884
A protection service that provides information and referrals to parents and children of abusive situations.

Stop It Now

P.O. Box 495
Haydenville, Ma. 01039
Attn: Fran Henry/ph:(413)268-3096
Primary mission is to confront abusers and motivate them to stop. Has a "Describe The Offender" project inviting survivors to fill out a questionnaire.

National Resource Center On Child Sexual Abuse

2204 Whitesburg Dr. St.
Huntsville, Al. 35801
Attn: Ms. Cynthia Miller/ph:(205)534-6868/(800)543-7006/FAX:(205)534-6883
Government funded center for information on sexual abuse.

National Childrens Advocacy Centers

106 Lincoln St.
Huntsville, AL. 35801
Attn: Charles Wilson/ph:(205)533-5437/FAX:(205)534-6883
Call for current list of centers and the one closest to you. Usually the best place to take a child who has been sexually abused is the local center.

Clergy Abuse Survivors Alliance

5490 Judith Street #3
San Jose, Ca. 95123
Attn: Mollie McLeod/ph:(408)365-7288
Group of survivors working to better their lives as well as the lives of others. Maintains database of denominational information on clergy abuse.

Witness

P.O. Box 141253
Grand Rapids, MI. 49514
Attn: Rev. Diane Maodush-Pitzer/ph:(616)791-9264
Advocates for victims and survivors of sexual abuse, harassment and gender discrimination within the church. Reformed Church of America.

Commission For Women

c/o Evangelical Lutheran
8765 W. Higgins
Chicago, IL. 60631
Attn: Rev. J. Erickson-Pearson/ph:(312)380-2860/(800)638-3522/FAX:(312)380-2455
A support group that provides information and referrals for survivors and victims of clergy, priest and spiritual abuse.

Center For Women and Religion

Graduate Theological Union
2400 Ridge Road
Berkeley, Ca. 94709
Attn: Pamela Cooper-White
Provides information and referrals to survivors and victims of clergy/priest or spiritual abuse.

Dissociative Identity Disorder (MPD) Resources

Pathways for Creative Management of MPD/DID

550 Ramona St.
Rochester, N.Y. 114615
Attn: Pam Keyser/ph:(716)458-4643
Peer-facilitated support group focused on creative management methods for people diagnosed with multiple personality disorder.

International Society for the Study of Dissociation

4700 W. Lake Ave
Glenview, Il 60025
Jeffrey Engle/ph:(708)375-4718/FAX:(708)375-4777
Main Professional Group regarding MPD/DID.

Dissociative Disorders Foundation

P.O. Box 820983
Dallas, TX. 75382
ph:(214)360-5610/(800)462-7759
Multiple Facets is a quarterly journal for those with dissociative disorders and MPD/DID, the clinicians who treat them, and the friends and loved ones who share in their recovery. $20.00 for publication. Call for details.

North Carolina Society for the Study of Dissociation

P.O. Box 3693
Chapel Hill, NC 27515
Attn: Gary Peterson/ph:(919)929-1171/FAX:(919)929-1174
E-mail: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it .NCTSSD is a professional assoc. Organized for the purpose of facilitating networking of clinicians and researchers, providing professional and public education, and promoting research and training in dissociative identify disorder.

Bridgework Counseling Center, Inc. & Sanctuary

The Sanctuary Group Home
1634 Nebraska
Palm Harbor, FL. 34684
Attn: Sandy Brown/ph:(813)530-4199
The Sanctuary at Bridgework is for women who have sustained multiple emotional traumas beginning in childhood and extending through adulthood. They have developed disorders requiring assisted living and rehabilitation.

Incest Resources

Wings Foundation, Inc.

8007 W Colfax
CS #27-Box 129
Lakewood, CO. 80215
Attn: Judy Page
ph:(303)238-8660
A support group for victims and survivors of Incest.

National Organization on Male Sexual Victimization

5190 E. Farness Dr. #112
Tucson, AZ 85712
ph:(520)323-3156
Male-oriented support group for individuals who have been sexually abused.

Incest Survivors Resource Network International

P.O. Box 7375
Las Cruces, NM 88006
Attn: Anne-Marie Erikson
ph:(505)521-4260
Many resources. For twelve (12) years has operated the first national and international help line answered by incest-survivors-only. For professionals and survivors (including adult survivors of mother-son incest). Co-sponsors national conferences.

General Information

New Jersey Self-Help Clearinghouse

Northwest Covenant
25 Pocono Road
Denville, NJ 07834
ph:(201)625-9565/(800)367-6274/FAX:(201)625-8848
Provides information on self-help groups. Assists individuals interested in starting new groups in the state.

The Clearinghouse for Child Abuse Prevention

Planned Parenthood
2314 Auburn
Cincinnati, OH 45219
Attn: Theresa Tucker
ph:(513)721-8932/FAX:(513)721-2313
Provides printed materials and other assistance in Greater Cincinnati area.

Cavalcade Productions, Inc.

7360 Potter Valley Road
Ukia, Ca. 95482
Attn: Dale & Bruce McCulley
ph:(707)743-1168/(800)343-5530/FAX:(707)743-1903
Produces and markets excellent videos for both Public Awareness and Professional Training. Have several on Satanic Ritual Abuse, Self Injury, Traumatic Memories and childhood Dissociation, and Severe Early Trauma.

MN ARA (Minnesota Awareness of Ritual Abuse Network)

P.O. Box 8144
Minneapolis, MN 55408
Provide information and referrals to survivors or victims of ritual or cult abuse.

Legal Issues

American Bar Association

1800 M St; NW, Suite 200
Washington, DC 20036
Attn: Howard Davidson
ph:(202)331-2250/FAX:(202)662-1755
Legal Information for Child Abuse.

National Center for the Prosecution of Child Abuse

99 Canal Center Plaza,
Alexandria, Va. 22314
Attn:Mark Ells
ph:(703)739-0321
A group that provides legal resources concerning the prosecution of child abuse offenders.

Beth S. Herr & Associates

330 Broadway
Cambridge, Ma. 02139
Attn: Beth S. Herr
ph:(617)492-6233/FAX:(617)492-5606
Provide information on Survivors' rights.

National Center for Youth Law

114 Sansome Street Suite
San Fransisco, CA. 94104
Attn: John O'Toole
ph:(415)543-3307/FAX:(415)956-9024
Sue on behalf of children victimized in government control.

National Center on Women and Family Law

799 Broadway Room #402
New York, NY 10003
Attn: Nechama Masliansky
ph:(212)674-8200/FAX:(212)533-5104
Legal work in area of battered women, child support and custody.

Justice For Children

412 Main St. Suite 400
Houston, Tx. 77002
Attn: Kimberly Zeidan
ph:(713)225-4357/FAX:(713)225-2818
This group combines advocacy with casework in child abuse cases. We are concerned with the failure of governmental agencies' failure to protect the child once the abuse has been reported.

Coalition for Victims of Violent Crime

Newman, Heineman
45 School Street
Boston, MA. 02108
Attn: Jeffrey A. Newman, ESQ.
ph:(617)723-3355/(800)354-7441/FAX:(617)723-3122
300 receive bi-monthly free newsletter. Recent publication of Rape, Child Abuse and Assault: A Violent Crime Victim's Guide to Legal Rights.

NOW Legal Defense And Education

99 Hudson St. 12th Floor
New York, NY 10013
Attn: Ms. Julie Goldscheid
Legal Resource Guide is a must if you want to consider litigation.

Child Abuse Forensic Institute

810 Brown St
Napa, CA 94581
Attn: Seth Goldstein
ph:(707)226-6675/FAX:(707)226-6675
Lawyers, investigators, clinicians and experts throughout the country are available for advocacy in all legal forums. System advocacy is also available, as well as training and consultation.

Miller & Gaudio

104 Maple Ave.
Red Bank, NJ 07701
Attn: J. Miller & F. Gaudio
ph:(908)741-6769
Legal firm which provides services/representation for survivors.

National Center for Children and Families

3975 University Dr; St. 320
Fairfax, Va. 22030
Attn: Robert Showers
ph:(703)691-4626/FAX:(703)691-4669
An affiliate of the National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families. It provides legal resources and assistance on a national and local level to defend children and families.

Military-GI Rights Hotline

GI Rights Hotline: 1-800-FYI-95GI

Missing Children

Child Find of America, Inc.

P.O. Box 277
New Paltz, NY 12561
Attn: Cheryl Kane
ph:(914)255-1848/(800)426-5678/FAX:(914)255-5706
Locates missing children, prevents and resolves parental abduction through confidential medication and provides public information at no fee.

National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

Washington, D.C.
800-THE LOST

Ocult and Ritual Abuse

Occult Activity Information Network

P.O. Box 27626
San Diego, Ca. 92128
Attn: Mark Galvan
ph:(619)485-9849/FAX:(619)746-6396
Provide information for survivor of ritual or cult abuse.

Occult Research & Crime Consultants

P.O. Box 370006
El Paso, TX 79937
Attn: Greg Reid
ph:(915)595-3569/FAX:(915)595-3117
A non-profit group which conducts research on the occult, satanism and satanic ritual abuse.

Sword of the Spirit Ministries, Inc.

P.O. Box 777
Cheppaqua, NY 10514
ph:(914)238-6737/(800)943-5390
Christian literature investing the occult, satanic ritual abuse, witchcraft and the UFO phenomenon.

Periodicals

Books Beyond Borders

3640 Walnut St; St. A
Houston, TX 80301
Attn: Rachel Snyder
ph:(303)449-6440/FAX:(303)449-7918

Publishes book written by Elizabeth Julie Mikal, Until Darkness Holds No Fear: Healing a Multiple Personality.. Elizabeth, a survivor of horrific abuse at a very early age, tells a powerful story of her own awakening at the age 42, and her journey toward integration and healing. Elizabeth is also a workshop facilitator and lecturer.

The Hope Chest

70 Dell Ave. #A4
New London, CT 06320
ph:(203)437-4673
A monthly publication dedicated to helping adult survivors of childhood traumas overcome the effects of these events and recover their lost selves. 6 issues for $15.00; 12 issues for $27.00

Journey Press

P.O. Box 30006 Editorial
Seattle, WA. 98103
ph:(206)782-9525
A monthly journal for those who still believe it's possible to change the world beginning with ourselves. $20.00 U.S. $30.00 Canada/International

Just Us Unlimited Inc.

P.O. Box 1121
Parker, CO 80134
Attn: Faith Donaldson
ph:(303)759-4275
A bi-monthly publication to provide information related to MPD/DID and ritual abuse.
$20.00. Also many other publications and information available.
Pen Palprogram for MPD/DID. Works against FMSF.

Child Maltreatment

2601 Metro Blvd
Saint Louis, MO. 63043
ph:(800)600-0330
An encyclopedic array of diagnostic tools to stop this tragic assault on our children.

Above A Whisper

P.O. Box 2588
Ann Arbor, MI 48106
ph:(313)662-5066
Written by & for women survivors of incest/childhood sexual abuse. Their purpose is to provide validation of our experience, collective support and safety for the healing process, and empowerment to create new possibilities for community.
Quarterly $10.00

The Adult Survivor

1318 Ridgecrest Circle
Denton, TX 76205
A bi-monthly newsletter of writings on child abuse and recovery by those who have gone through it. Subscriptions $8.00 per year, $12.00 overseas.
E-mail address is: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

Moving Forward

P.O. Box 4426
Arlington, VA 22204
Attn: Lana Lawrence
ph: (703)271-4024/FAX:(703)271-4025
A nonprofit organization that publishes a quarterly news journal to help educate our society about the effects of sexual abuse; and to provide information about support services for abuse survivors, their supporters, and mental health service providers.

Youthfire Publications

Box 370006
El Paso, TX 79937
ph:(915)595-3569/FAX:(915)595-3117
Non-profit organization helping at-risk kids and abused children. 'Orphans in the Storm', a book written by Greg Reid, a survivor of sexual and ritual abuse.

Write To Tell/Write To Heal/Write To Feel

P.O. Box 4559
6257 Longford
Citrus Heights, CA 95621
Attn: Anne Cox
ph:(916)725-9490
WTH $36.00 bi-monthly, 24-36/issues; WTT $40.00 quarterly, 36-44 pp./issue.
SASE for info and sample rates.
WTF annual publication for veterans of military/war, written by veterans and supportive family and friends. 2nd Edition 1995.

National Obscenity Law Center

475 Riverside Dr.
New York, NY 10115
ph: (212)870-3222
A project of Morality in Media, Inc. It monitors legislation against pornography. A clearinghouse of legal information on obscenity law.

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