Tips For Amazing Sex

Female sex experts provide 15 can't-miss tips to turn your sex life into a mature-audiences-only flick

You're lying in bed after a job well done, thinking you're at the top of your game. "This couldn't possibly get any better, could it?" you ask. "Of course not," she replies. But there's a look in her eyes that says maybe it could.

Even if she doesn't say there's something missing, she may be thinking it. That's the thing about sex; even when it's great, there's still room for improvement--if not for you, then, just possibly, for her. Sometimes the problem is that she won't tell you what she wants ... or maybe she did tell you but you were a little too involved at the time to pay attention. In the interest of keeping your relationship well heated, we went to four top female "sexperts" to find out what bedroom moves you can make to thrill a woman most--while maximizing your own pleasure as well. Here's what they had to say.

SEXPERT #1

Josey Vogels writes the syndicated sex-advice column "My Messy Bedroom."

1) Take things slow. "Whenever a woman says she wants things to go slower, take what you think is slower and multiply it by 10. Women often complain that guys work too quickly through the stages kissing, hands on boobs, hands on crotch. The time you spend at each stage should be longer--women want to be teased. Which isn't to say we don't still like the occasional 'grab me in the hallway and do me now' session--just not all the time."

2) Change your style. "Don't assume that because something worked last time--or with your last girlfriend--you should stick with it. Variety is the spice of sex. Don't be afraid to try things and ask her how it feels: more or less, faster or slower, softer or harder. Women aren't always comfortable telling men what they want, so ask her directly and encourage her to tell you."

3) Remember that adult films are for entertainment purposes only. "Stop taking tips from porn films.... They're not a very good teacher. In most mainstream porn, it's like, woman enters room, kiss, clothes off, they're doing it. For women, the seductive period leading up to the nakedness is important, and you seldom get that in porn. And forget that tongue-flicking thing they do.... Generally, women want anything you do with your tongue to be long and slow."

4) Give yourself a rest. "It's not always true that the longer you last during sex, the happier we women are. We want things to go on a while, but chafing isn't sexy. And just because you start something doesn't mean you can't stop and go back to it. Don't be concerned you'll lose your erection, because you can get it back."

5) Appreciate her looks--and take care of your own. "Always verbally express your appreciation of your partner's body at any given opportunity. Women are vain; we want to hear all the time how beautiful we are. We're also insecure about our physical presence. But you should also take care of your own body--women love a guy who dresses well and stays well-groomed. Both men and women tend to go into cruise control when they get into relationships, but she'll appreciate you even more if you still put effort into your appearance."

SEXPERT #2

Sex and relationships writer Sari Locker is the author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Amazing Sex.

6) Sometimes she doesn't want much foreplay. "In the course of a relationship, there will probably be times when a woman is turned on and ready without needing a lot of kissing and touching first. How can you tell? If she's eagerly attending to your happy parts more than the rest of your body or pulling you straight into a sexual position, it's pretty clear. If you aren't sure, ask her."

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7) Don't assume she'll request what she wants. "Many women are shy about asking for oral sex, but really do want it. If she doesn't ask, give it a try anyway. Kiss your way from her neck all the way down her chest, stomach and thighs, then go for it. If she likes it, she'll be happy to let you keep going. In the unlikely event that she doesn't, or if she just isn't in the mood, she'll be sure to stop you. Or she may want you to do it for a while, then move on to regular intercourse."

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