I was very touched and honored when Theresa and Lisa asked me to speak in their ceremony today.  Theresa asked me if I would read from something I had written or maybe write something new - and Lisa who knows me a little better and knows how passionately I feel about my beliefs and how ready I am to share them - let me know very clearly that I had a strict time limit as to how long I could speak.

So, as I was preparing for this, I was torn between some of my published quotes that are meaningful and would communicate what I believe is important about why we are here, and some things that were bubbling up inside of me over the last few weeks in relationship to this topic.

And at about 3 this morning when I got clear that what was bubbling up was what I wanted to say to Lisa and Theresa.   What became very clear to me this morning is that it really doesn't matter if anyone else here today understands what I am saying.  I am here now to speak directly to my friends Lisa and Theresa from my heart and soul - out of my beliefs, out of the mystical knowing that has guided my path.

What I know is that you two have been together many times before in other life times.  You made a sacred pact to come together in this lifetime to help each other heal the wounds you need to heal - to serve as teachers and guides and support for each other as you go through this school of Spiritual evolution that we are all in.

It doesn't matter what you call that - twin souls, soul mates, whatever - what matters is that you honor the power of the connection that you feel.  And that is why you are here today.  To stand here in front of the people you care the most about, to stand here in front of God/The Goddess /The Great Spirit/The Universal Source - and make public Acknowledgment and Affirmation of the sacred commitment that already exists between you.

This is kind of your Soul's way of tricking yourself into agreeing to what your Souls already agreed to.  In other words, you were powerless in this lifetime to do anything but end up at this moment.

And someplace along the way, I agreed to show up today to remind you, that this is not the ending where the music swells and the romantic couple rides (in this case on the biker chick's motorcycle) off into the sunset to Live Happily Ever After.  This is just the beginning.

Because Yes you are "gifts from heaven" to each other - but like all gifts in this multi-leveled paradoxical experience of life - there is good news and bad news. The good news is that you have found your soul mate and you are going to touch ecstasy together - you are on the path to learning about the True meaning of Love. That is great news because LOVE is all there Truly is and the only thing that is important.

The bad news is that you have a lot of stuff to work through.  You have lifetimes of history.  You have Loved each other intensely and wounded each other grievously.  You each have specific wounds from your paths in this lifetime that are reflections of the ways in which you have been wounded in other lifetimes.

You each have emotional "buttons" that trigger old defensive reactions, fears and insecurities - and you are sitting next to the person who was specifically prepared and trained to be a specialist in pushing  your buttons.  The gift you will give each other by pushing those buttons will help each of you uncover the wounds that need to be healed.

You have come together to teach each other, to help each other heal, to support and encourage each other in your quest to find your True Self.

If you keep healing, working through your stuff - then you do not have to do the dysfunctional cultural dance of toxic romance here.  This does not have to be "the 'I can't live without you, can't smile without you' addictive, make the other person your Higher Power, be the victim, lose yourself, power struggle, right and wrong, trapped, taken hostage, poor abused me, Two Step.

What you are doing today is making a conscious commitment in the Light, to support each other on your healing, Spiritual paths.  That's paths plural.  Your paths are going to run together - hopefully for the rest of your lives - but they are not going to become one path.  You are individual, unique, Special, Magnificent, Powerful Beings who are choosing to become allies, to become partners in the journey to each of  you being and becoming all you are meant to be.

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