Orgasm Difficulty - What Can We Do?

First up, don't think obsessively about having an orgasm - don't set out in each and every sexual encounter to have an orgasm; enjoy the total, sensual sexual experience: cuddling, caressing, massage, foreplay, mutual masturbation, the full exploration of each other's body. Men should make sure they are doing enough to arouse - and to keep aroused - their partner. Couples should discuss what turns on each person. Remember, what appeals to one, doesn't appeal to another. For example, some people like their nipples touched or even pinched, others don't.

Try to have sex when you are both ready - not too tired, not angry, not ill - you both have to be in the mood.

Most women need and enjoy direct clitoral stimulation during sex and are more likely to have an orgasm if this occurs. Clitoral stimulation can be done by the woman herself or her partner - just by gently touching and stroking the clitoris before or during intercourse - this is a perfectly normal way of helping induce a woman's orgasm.

Don't strive for simultaneous orgasms - enjoy your partner's orgasm by watching and helping him or her come to a climax, then let them share your pleasure when you reach orgasm.

A woman who experiences no or few orgasms can learn to bring herself to a climax. You just need some orgasm training.

Last updated: 8/05

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