Women and Orgasm

Everyone can orgasm, but not everyone does. Orgasms vary from person to person - there is no 'natural' or typical orgasm; some women need direct clitoral stimulation (touching of the clitoris) during sex in order to have an orgasm, others don't.

The orgasm is not the most important part of sex, it is an important part.

Not every sexual encounter - masturbatory or with a partner - has to climax with an orgasm.

'Coming together' is not as common as sexual 'gossip' would have us believe - most partners have mutual orgasms only occasionally, some couples never do.

In their youth, a majority of women find reaching orgasm hard - as they get older and become more sexually experienced, it becomes easier. Sexual intercourse alone, that is, penetration of a woman's vagina by a man's penis, may be sufficient to bring the man to climax. But it very often is not enough to make a woman reach orgasm - in fact it is very common for a woman not to have an orgasm if her only sexual stimulation is intercourse.

An orgasm is much more likely to eventuate if both partners are relaxed and happy about having sex together, are 'turned-on' by each other and are able to arouse and excite each other in ways that are mutually satisfying.

The inability to experience an orgasm is a common sexual problem, especially so with women. Roughly 1 in 10 women (and this could be a conservative estimate) report never having an orgasm but in most cases the problem can be overcome.

Difficulty having an orgasm? What can you do?

Last updated: 8/05

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