Get Rid of the Body Image Blues

Do you worry about the state of your body in bed? Don’t let a poor body image blight a potentially glorious sex life.

Imagine the scene. The kisses are getting steamier, touches more intimate. Passion is rising fast. Yes, yes, yes! Then his hands reach for your tummy and you freeze. No, you’re not off sex, but when it comes to certain areas, you just can’t relax.

It may be your stomach you dislike, or your breasts, your bottom, your cellulite or stretch marks. Whatever it is, you’re not alone. In my survey Women on Sex, a staggering 98% of women expressed worries about their bodies, and 22.2% said they weren’t comfortable naked in front of anyone, particularly their lovers. In short, all our insecurities flare up when it comes to sex.

The key to good sex is confidence - feeling good about yourself, your looks and ultimately your body. Yet so many women’s sex lives are hampered by body insecurities. A positive self-image leads to a glorious sex life. Start beating your body image blues and feeling like a sex goddess. You can do it and here’s how.

Cosmetic camouflages
Do what you can to improve your looks - smooth legs, painted toenails, clean shiny hair, glowing skin. These strategies may be cosmetic but they do make you feel better about yourself. Choose beautiful lingerie - rather than big faded knickers - to boost confidence too.

There’s a lot you can do with simple camouflage. Keep that wonderful teddy on until the last moment when you slide between the sheets. Candlelight, or a soft bulb, create a flattering light and enhance the intimate mood.

Be conscious of your body language. Walk (or sit, kneel or recline) tall, by pulling in that stomach and rolling shoulders back so your breasts stand proud.

Talk yourself confident
Beneficial as all these strategies are, they all still buy into the same old belief - that you have to have a perfect body to be confident in bed.

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A more useful, longer-term strategy, is to change your mind rather than your body. It was Jennifer Lopez - voted the world’s sexiest woman - who said that her looks are unimportant. It’s the way she feels about herself that makes her a killer beauty. Sexiness comes with confidence.

You may be muttering, ‘It’s all right for her, she’s got the looks’. But she’s Right, if you feel bad, you’ll look bad. If you feel good about yourself as a person, you will look beautiful. Your partner will see you as beautiful. He’ll pick up on your self-belief.

So concentrate, in bed and out, on the parts of your body you are happy with. Do you love your hands, your hair, your eyes? Be aware of your assets, flaunt them and believe it when people pay you compliments.

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