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Chapter 50 of the book Self-Help
Stuff That Works by Adam Khan:
WE HAVE GOALS — things we want to accomplish. And we really do
want to accomplish them; we’re not trying to fool anyone or pump
things up. But sometimes we give up on our goals. Why?
All goals have obstacles to their achievement, things in the way.
These are problems or difficulties we meet on the way to the goal
that we must handle in order to achieve the goal.
What makes us give up is when it looks like we won’t be able to
overcome the obstacles. They seem too big or too numerous. When we
feel sure we can’t do it, we tend to give up.
What are the alternatives to giving up? Below are three. They are
stated simply. Please do not discount them because of their brevity
or simplicity. The fact that they are stated simply and briefly
merely makes them easier to use and therefore more powerful, not
less.
- Get help. There are people who want to help you. Enlist
their aid. The more help you get, the sooner you’ll succeed.
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Tackle the obstacles one at a time. When you try to
tackle all the obstacles, or just look at all the obstacles at
the same time, it can overwhelm you. The feeling of being
completely outgunned can take the wind out of your sails before
you even get started. Pick one obstacle — an easy one — and
tackle that first. Don’t even think about the rest of them.
It’s likely that after you’ve tackled one obstacle, you’ll
be in a better, stronger position to handle the next one, and so
on.
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Get some training or knowledge that will make you more
able to deal with the obstacles. Read, study, practice. As you
gain in ability, the obstacles shrink in comparison.
NEXT TIME you are overwhelmed by obstacles, try one, two, or all
three of these alternatives to giving up. You’ll find they work.
Using them, you’ll discover new strength and zeal to keep your
dream alive and accomplish your goal.
Rather than give up:
Get help, tackle the obstacles one at a time,
and get some training.
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Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy
might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor
wisdom in the grave, whither thou goest. — Ecclesiastes
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