Suicide

• Why do people commit suicide
• What to do when you are suicidal
• Signs that someone may "snap"
• An Overview
• Statistics

Why do people commit suicide?

No healthy person wants to die.* Suicide occurs when an individual’s suffering is severe and he/she believes there is no hope for it to go away. Suicide is perceived as a way to end the suffering, like shooting an injured horse to put it out of it’s misery.

Dealing with suicide depends upon working on both aspects: restoring hope, and having a plan to stop the suffering.

Whether it’s due to "physical" pain such as spread of cancer to the spine or "emotional" pain like depression and the dysphoria (anxiety, rage, depression and despair) experienced in the borderline personality disorder, the individual is suffering severely. Efforts must be made to stop or at least markedly reduce their suffering. While much can be learned from suffering, it’s best to stop and/or prevent it - as long as the treatment(s) don’t make the individual worse. There are many ways to accomplish this goal including medication, meditation, physical and psychological therapy, spiritual perspective, etc.

Providing hope is just as crucial. Short term suffering can usually be managed as long as there is a realistic hope that the suffering will stop. Knowledge is extremely important in this regard. When the individual incorrectly believes no hope exists, the suicide risk goes up.

Psychosis - misinterpreting reality - may result in suicide attempts because the incorrect perceptions can cause severe suffering and a false belief that no hope exists.

Some people with terminal illnesses commit suicide before severe suffering starts. These individuals need reassurance that their suffering will be treated medically so the individual can enjoy the time they have left. The Hospice organization has been extremely effective with this goal. People usually need to believe there is a purpose to their life. It is a spiritual issue rather than a medical or psychiatric one. I believe strongly that everyone has enormous value, and can become a loving, purposeful individual. To me, the near death experience gives clues about what happens after we die. Most accounts show that those who have "seen the light" considered it a wonderful experience and they no longer fear death. Those who have unsuccessfully committed suicide yet also "saw the light" report it was a bad experience and the were told not to take their own life - and that the consequences for committing suicide would be great. The books "Embraced By the Light" by Betty Eadie and "Transformed by the Light" by Dr. Melvin Morse have been particularly useful in this regard for my patients and in my efforts to help with suicidal thoughts and urges.

*The exception is when an individual chooses to die because one’s life isn’t as important as something the individual believes in. This includes both heroism and a belief system that the individual’s life isn’t important. There are many examples including movies (Armageddon), books (A Tale of Two Cities by Charles Dickens), Japanese kamikaze pilots, and a soldier falling on a grenade to protect his comrades.

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