What To Do If You Are
Suicidal
Welcome to the most important page in
my site. If you are reading this, it's probably because you are at the end of
your rope and are ready to "cash in." Please don't do this just yet.
If you've gone to the trouble of browsing to this page, at least read it all
the way to the bottom. OK? I promise, you'll be glad you did.
Right now, I'm going to promise you this: I will not preach or lie to you.
You deserve better than that.
First of all, I've been where you are. It may
help for you to read about my experience with
depression. But I want you to know this--although you probably feel
completely and utterly alone, you are not. Millions of people have
depression and you are by no means the first
to feel this terrible nor will you be the last.
As I said, I won't preach. I won't tell you that
life is sweet, just hang on, and all of that crap. It isn't necessarily true,
and even if it were, you aren't buying it. The trouble is that your view of
things is distorted. You won't believe that either--so I'm just going to ask
you to take my word for it. For now, please just assume this is so, and read
on.
You are thinking about
ending your life for a very
simple reason: You can no longer cope with the stresses in your life. That's
all there is to it. And you can't cope because the depression won't permit you
to look for ways to cope. Rather than deal with problems, you assume you just
"deserve" them, or something like that. But the fact is that
problems, all problems, can be dealt with, but only if you take off the
blinders of depression and look for those solutions.
Understand this, no-one upon no-one in this world
"deserves" problems or unpleasantness. Harmful or unpleasant events
cannot think. They do not pick you for some inexplicable reason. They simply
happen. There is no reason for it. Bad things simply
"happen"--period. You are not a factor in why they happen. You just
happen to be there when they do.
I know you don't believe it, but your life is
not over. It is just beginning, if you want it to. You see, you are in
charge of your life. At the moment, you simply have lost direction and see no
way out. All you have to do is accept that you are not in control and are not
seeing things as they are. Admit this and ask for help.
Your
pain is unbearable.
You can't imagine living one more day this way. I know. And you probably think
that your pain is spilling over onto others. Better to end your life now and
spare everyone else this awful pain that you can no longer stand--right? Wrong!
If you end your life, all you will do is spread your pain around, not eliminate
it. The people who love you (and there are some, even if you don't think so)
will mourn you for the rest of their lives. They will wonder why you did it,
how they could have helped you, what way they failed you, or even why you chose
to do this to them.
You see, you won't spare those who love you a
lifetime of pain. You'll be inflicting one on them! Don't do it!
Right now, stop what you are doing, and call for
help. Call a friend, clergyman, doctor, crisis line, or even just dial 9-1-1 if
you can think of no-one else. Listen to what they say--whoever it is--and allow
them to help you. You are in no shape to make decisions right now.
You've lived with the pain long enough. It's time
to let someone help you with it. Please do it now, before you make a mistake
that someone else will mourn for the rest of their lives.
Please.
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