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Resistance (part 5 cont.)

RESISTANCE BY OLD SELF

Another resistance to change and growth is the mind / old-self using dazzling lures to the old ways. They are those frustrating parts of ourself that like to react - thank you very much. The old memory kicks in and says remember how much twisted joy you got out of being this way. It holds the golden carrot in front of your face. Isn't it fun to project your anger onto someone else - just one more time

OK. Why do we always have to be the one's that change? Can't we be left alone to our suffering. There's less fear involved in it. You know they said this and this and this about you. Come on, let's react. And so the story goes. The lure to go back to the old ways of being may persist until the new way has been established. It still has a hold over us until it's energy has been let go of. In this way, we have to keep our resolution in tact.

It is a very glittering carrot indeed to return to unconscious reactive behaviour. The pain of finding out aspects of ourselves is not present. It takes no energy of awareness. We just roll in our reactions. But it is not growth. And our stress and anxiety levels will increase again. And we can never really return to our previous way of being. But the carrot is still there. It is a resistance to letting go of the old and obsolete ways. A tricky device of the mind that has had so much control for so long. Just become aware of this aspect, and keep the resolution to grow strong.

RESISTANCE TO ACCEPTANCE

We have another resistance at this level - and that is the resistance to acceptance. We need to accept where we are at right now before we can move forward. If we are continually saying that we don't like where we are at right now, we want to be somewhere else, we are not accepting ourselves and acknowledging our journey to this point. We are not saying don't have goals or that we resign ourselves to being this way forever. All we are saying is that we need to look within and truly see that where we are right now is perfect on the road to transformation. We can not be anywhere else but here.

We accept that we need some work in certain areas and that we have to let go of alot of old ways. We accept that we are not perfect, but the way we are right now is the best place we can be in our journey. We are at a certain point in our recovery and what we are experiencing right now is exactly what we should be experiencing.

Everything we feel is just part of the journey and we know that we are exactly at the right place. We are healing, we are letting go of built-up emotions (eg. fear, anger, sadness etc.) and we accept where we are, and see that we have come a long way.

A little verbose, but it is very important, because our growth can be stunted by the resistance to accepting where we are at right now. If we don't accept where we are right now, how in hell are we going to grow from this point. Our minds will be full of where we want to be and why we aren't there right now.

Well, there may be a lot of letting go between where we are right now and the place we want to be. So acceptance is big. It is to resist growth when we chastise ourselves or get impatient at where we are right now.

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