Internet Addiction: Is it just this month's hand-wringer for worrywarts, or a genuine problem?

By R.W. Greene

Q: How do you know when you're addicted to the Internet?

A: You start tilting your head sideways to smile. You dream in HTML. Your wife says communication is important in a marriage, so you buy another computer and a second phone line so the two of you can chat. . . .

For many people, the very notion of "Internet addiction" is enough to produce guffaws. The above list of "symptoms" can be found in various permutations all over the World Wide Web. One site consists of an elaborate, 12-step parody of Internet addiction recovery - complete with its own Serenity Prayer.

But for growing numbers of people, such jokes are falling flat.

"My marriage is breaking up because of my husband's addiction, which seems to have destroyed not only our marriage but my husband's personality, his values, his morals, his behavior and his parenting," says one subscriber to an Internet addiction support mailing list. The subscriber said she is a professional in her 40s and asked to be identified only as Rachel. "I had no idea what the potential for destruction was," Rachel writes. Mental health professionals say they read and hear such sentiments in their E-mail and offices with increasing frequency. The bright graphics of the Internet - as well as its anonymity and speed - are too much of a good thing for some users, who will neglect family, work and school to stay online.

The bright graphics of the Internet - as well as its anonymity and speed - are too much of a good thing for some users, who will neglect family, work and school to stay online.

Maressa Orzack, a therapist in Newton, Mass., tells of one man who threw his wife's modem out the window in disgust at her refusal to log off — only to have her beat him in retaliation. In another case, a boy whose phone line had been cut by worried parents climbed out a third-floor window to reattach it.

According to New York-based research firm Jupiter Communications, Inc., there will be more than 116 million Americans online by 2002. Some researchers say 5% to 10% of Internet users have the potential for an addiction problem.

Though the number of people being treated is very small — perhaps no more than a few hundred nationwide — many mental health professionals say the problem is no fad and bears close watching as the world gets increasingly wired.

Almost nobody blames the Internet itself for people's over reliance on it. And therapists recognize that an Internet addiction (though not everybody uses that word) carries none of the destructive power of addictions to drugs or alcohol. But something is going on, most agree. "[There are] three components that need to be present for any addiction: increased tolerance, loss of control and withdrawal," says Steven Ranney, coordinator of research and training at the Illinois Institute for Addiction Recovery at Proctor Hospital in Peoria. He believes Internet addiction qualifies.

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