A Partner's Dilemma

I've received a number of letters from spouses and partners of sexual abuse survivors, and it seems there still isn't a whole lot of support out there. It seems you, the partners, are left feeling alone, helpless, powerless, and often afraid of what's ahead.

Apparently, emotional intimacy and the sexual part of recovery are the hardest to work through. Unfortunately, there are no quick fixes. For some of us, it's a matter of working through one issue at a time.

I'm enclosing a letter I received from a partner and the response I gave to him. I'm hoping it will help you to understand your relationship better and may inspire ways to bring about the changes you want.

After reading this letter and my response, please share your struggles and victories and what has helped you and your spouse through this difficult journey.

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